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i've been thinking about this question lowkeyly since shortly after trump was reelected, since that's when i really noticed the manosphere & the heritage foundation's agendy and all the other 'good' stuff. i feel like at this point most guys my age are at least somewhat contaminated with manosphere or alt right talking points (i even personally know guys that are kneck deep into that shit) which is really scary to think about. it's pretty concerning namely because i definitely don't want to risk accidently dating or worse, marrying & having kids, with a genuine misogynist who worships fresh&fit and nick fuentes. especially if you factor in potential rolling back of no fault divorce, birth control, etc. a lot of those dudes pretend to be normal or downplay what they are, so it's often hard to know, especially in the beginning. even if you get with a normal dude, there's a big risk his algorithm eventually ends up brainwashing him. even if these guys don't end up on the farther end of the spectrum, they still end up with ideas and attitudes about women that feel remniscent of the 80s, and that's pretty terrible already.

now about the question, i know that this touches every age bracket but it's heavily concentrated on gen z dudes and younger. i'm in my mid twenties (the age of my profile is muchhh older, thought it was slightly funny when i created my account years ago) for reference. i'm really most attracted to guys my age, never been that much of a daddy appreciator or anything, but i think it could maybe be more wise potentially? to date older at this point. i feel like millenials are much less contaminated by this type of stuff, or am i wrong? (atm that refers to 30-40yos). could maybe consider younger gen x (like 45-50something yos), though i'm typically not very physically attracted to men those ages and there's the risk that if they're willing to date a woman in her mid 20s it could mean bad things about their real beliefs and attitutes to women.

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We met on a dating app—no, not Tinder—and he messaged me first. We talked for a few days and clicked fast. We’re both artists learning tattooing, traded art, hyped each other up, then moved to texting. He kept asking for selfies, calling me beautiful, and sending his back. He was cute, fit, tall enough without being towering, and covered in tattoos like me.

He wanted to hang out and hook up, but I needed childcare, so we planned for him to come over while my six-month-old napped and I monitored the baby the whole time. He even offered Starbucks and gas-station snacks, which I declined. When he arrived he hugged me, took off his shoes without being asked, admired my gaming setup, and cuddled with me on the couch. He complimented my hair, touched it gently, then kissed me. We hooked up and the chemistry was real—he was attentive, no awkwardness, very compatible.

Afterward we talked, and he said he’d probably come over again the next day. Before he came over I’d warned him my ex’s belongings were still there in trash bags by the door. When he noticed them at the end of the night he tensed and said I should get rid of them. I agreed, and he relaxed. He hugged and kissed me goodbye. I noticed dimples I’d never seen in photos, told him they were cute, and he abruptly said goodnight.

The next day he barely replied. Then out of nowhere he texted, “I think I’m gay lmao.” I couldn't tell if he was kidding. He said he was serious and had been thinking about it. I noticed he’d unmatched me on the app. I respected it but asked if this was just him disappearing after sex. He said it wasn’t about me, just stuff in his head. I told him if he ever figured things out he could text me. He promised he would and sent a black heart. We haven’t spoken since.

I’m 25, he’s 27, and I’d just left an abusive relationship. I wasn’t naïve—just enjoying my freedom. Still, the whole thing doesn’t make sense.

So I'm talking to 2 guys from a dating app.. READ ALL:

Man A: he was sending me hearts and saying my face lips are nice etc and he was kinda getting sexual so I said im a virgin and am waiting for marriage. He said he doesn't think he can wait. So I said well then lets cancel our date but you seam very nice so wish you all the best. Then now he text back and said he wants to meet and he will have to wait for me. Is he lying? Cause i not gonna change my mind its been 24 years I've said no so far I dont wanna waste my time or his.

Man B: Is older he is 9 years older than me. He hasent said anything sexual not evan sent heart. He wants to meet in town to walk around and look in fun shops/eat waffles. He has 2 cats he talk about a lot and he wants a family like me. He is very introverted which I like. I haven't told him im waiting cause he seams more ready to settle down.. I mean im 24 he is 33 and he wants kids so maybe he is serious or he just wanna have fun?

SERIOUS=Can wait until marriage/wants family etc basically settle down not trying to just have a fun fling.