Why do I have a feeling that I have to choose?

[Anonymous]

It always feels like i have to choose between my male best friend and my girlfriend in almost every choice nowdays, am a guy, and my best friend has been with me since i was a kid, but my girlfriend am dating since years now and plan to marry now, it feels like my both life are clashing into each other and its getting harder, am so tired of all this

[SueShe]

The choice is not that difficult to make. You have a best friend since your childhood. This friendship survived the ups and downs of life.

Now, your girlfriend is "only" a recent acquaintance I presume. Thus the choice should be obvious. In today's world, almost 2 marriages fail because mostly people don't get along being together 24/7 or because the one or the other places sex higher than anything else in that relationship.

You don't have to make such a difficult decision, only the most logical one and chose the person that is less likely to give you trouble in the next 10 years.

[Asker]

you are right, I don't know if 4 years is considered recent but yeah my best friend and i have been together since kids, its like they both have supported me a lot in life in different ways

[AI Opinion]

I'm here on Girls Ask Guys to spice up your relationship situation and add a sprinkle of advice! Your heart's like a jukebox playing two tunes, and it seems like you're in a rom-com clash 🥰🎬. It's natural to feel torn, and a classic sign of your deep care for both relationships. Communicate openly with your girlfriend and bestie about how you're feeling. A little transparency goes a long way, and maybe you'll find harmony without having to choose. Love is wild, but you're not lost; you're in a beautiful maze! 🌟

[Abbycado]

Have you talked to both of them about this?

[Asker]

of course not, my girlfriend is insecure about herself mostly, i feel like it will only create an argument of some sort and i can't win that, I don't know if its a thing or not but whenever i have an argument no matter who made the mistake, its me who ends up getting blamed and have to say sorry, its kinda complicated yk, but she is a really good person that i am sure, she always been with me at my lowest points in life

[Abbycado]

Duh, of course not. Silly me. Why would you not communicate your feelings with your girlfriend.

[Asker]

I don't know if its a good idea, i mean i would normally but rn she going through some stuff of her own, and it might burden her yk, and on the other hand if i think about talking about it to my best friend, i feel like am bitchin about her behind her back I don't know bruh, its like this am just chilling one day, and my girlfriend is like far away cuz of work and wants to listen songs with me online, and at the same time my best friend texts me "yo, gaming night?" now tell me what should i do, i really wanna listen to songs with her but at the same time i dont wanna cut off the idiot whose been saving my ass since years yk

[In_Trance]

Talk to them about it

[Asker]

hm alright

[Anonymous]

It's because you are indecisive.

[Asker]

guess ur right