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Should I reach out to him or do you feel it’s awkward and not appropriate?

Yesterday my mom was in town and we went out to a nice restaurant and our waiter was a nice guy who looks like he’s a tad younger than me but we are in our 20s.. he was very nice and he was a nice looking guy.

He was attentive and he told us some of his favorite things on the menu. He did a good job and maybe in the back of my mind I thought he was cute and maybe said it but didn’t really think anything of it.. just a guy doing his job..

He did make eye contact with me even when just talking to my mom.. He did ask questions and asked how I got here since I’m not from this state.. I told him I was an art teacher and I told him how I stopped teaching in December to pursue something else and he tells me he understands completely and he just changed his major in college… did a 180 from film media to production…

I could tell my mom was up to something.. but the conversation was nice and he said he could give us recommendations for things to do and he tried to see if there were any free art tickets to go to the art museum.

My mom embarrassed me and told him I need to meet people and hang out and she ask him for his number and she says “maybe you have friends you can hook her up with “

It’s awkward for me and I tell him that he doesn’t have to do that or feel obligated to and i apologized… it was kind of a pause maybe because it’s awkward but he does say sure and he writes his number down

But I don’t want to reach out because I don’t know if he really wanted to or felt obligated

I like to dance SO much. Others like to include me in parties with dancing bc they know I'll get people out of their seats to dance even just a little (including older people who look like they would enjoy it and younger people who tend to be a little awkward about asking for a dance). No matter what, I always end up with my long-time friends and we pull each other into a dance circle as if we're still college kids. We all have a great deal of fun by the end of the evening.

I particularly take care to make sure everyone is able to get a dance in bc frankly finances and lives change so suddenly that you never really know if this is your last chance to see someone or to dance and laugh and share a meal with them.

Others seem to just "politely have one dance" then sit around the rest of the event, sometimes even in silence.

Which type are you?

I say it a lot. Online and off. Offline, my sister, (Yes, the evil, middle one again) tells me I'm wrong for saying this. She says I should stand up and defend what I believe in and stop being such a passive mouse. But she never seems very happy.

And being happy IS what I believe in. I mean, sure, sometimes I want to get into it with people both off and online but then I stop and wonder why? Like, so what if someone disagrees with me? And, so what if I put in all kinds of time and energy into proving MY point and making sure the world knows I'M right and making myself all worked up and agitated and PMSY in the mean time? Like, why bother? Is the person I'm arguing with suddenly going to "see the light" and say, "Omg! Random is SO right. I will change my entire life now!" And then the world will make a statue of me with a big plaque that says: "Random is Right"

'Cuz when I stop and think about it all, I really don't care. If you need to be right. Ok, be right. I'm gonna' go be happy. And maybe go look for some unicorns.

And so I ask, Am I wrong for saying I'd rather be happy than be right?