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Besides the obvious, good looks etc. 28F, I’m told I’m attractive but I don’t have much success at all. Matches/msgs aren’t the problem it’s just the usual ghosting, fizzling out, they message once & don’t reach out again, looking for sex, just weirdos etc. I knew a guy that had most of his relationships start from the apps & tbh he wasn’t good looking but he was friendly & said at one point there were days when he’d send msgs back to back to women in bulk bc some days were just dry. All the apps are the same in my opinion, if anything the only one I wouldn’t touch at all is tinder. If women have it easier then why’s that not the case for me? Or is that generalizing? Your experiences or thoughts?

For the past couple of months I've been having some friendly contact with a guy. Although he sometimes seems to be keeping his distance, he is contrarily the one to keep the conversation going and shows interest in my life. Even after the parking lot has gone empty, we often still remain a little while longer to talk.

Last night, we were hanging out at the gym and while I was talking to him, he suddenly grabbed onto the punching bag hanging beside us, and started dry-humping it. It caught me off guard, and he could clearly see the surprise on my face. We laughed about it then he jokingly mentioned he could see the surprise in my eyes.

Right afterwards, while we were still in our conversation, he started taking off his shirt, then changed into different clothes. Although I have seen more men changing while in conversation, it was very odd to me he'd do this right after he had his little... moment with the punching bag.

When we left, he mentioned he thought of me as an odd person. Then joked about being odd himself. Asked for my age and was surprised to learn I was younger than he'd imagined.

Thing is, what surprised me most by these acts and interactions is that this man is in a relationship and I do not have the sense that he is in any way interested or attracted to me. Would it be an extreme level of comfort or should I be a little more concerned? Lol.

Backstory: We’re acquaintances (friends of a friend.), we met at a party in the beginning of the year. He’d been trying to ask me out I had a lot of things happening all at once. Career change and moving figuring out if I’d continue to live in the area or find something back in my hometown. I stayed in the area, he helped me move my mattress. Then we’d been texting pretty much everyday and he’d FaceTime me twice just talking nothing crazy. I had car trouble, that he fixed. I couldn’t pay him he knows I cook so he asked me if that could be his payment. I said yeah. We were hanging out eating, smoked some weed and we both had stuff to get back to.

Current: I found free roller skating at a park and asked if he wanted to go. He said yes and it became a date. We ended up hooking up. We had some technical difficulties and planned for next weekend.

That next weekend, He asked if I still wanted to go to the movies with him, I said yes. Dressed a little fancy and we came back to my place to eat. We watched another movie he really wanted to see b/c he hadn’t seen it. Movie finished at 3am, I asked if he was going home he said he was really tired. I said he can sleep here if he wants he said yeah. Surprise he wasn’t that tired. We tried with the sex again. He thought he was hurting me I assured him he wasn’t. I don’t think he believed me and we just laid there talking for like a half hour and fell asleep. He also left his earring. I didn’t say anything about it though. After we were texting for four days. The responses weren’t dry or sparse everything normal. Then he suddenly stopped.

Should I text him just a simple “Hey, you good?” Or just keep being radio silent? I can at least think of five reasons: He’s not interested. He’s an introvert a social battery thing. Focused on finding a new apartment that I distracted him from twice. He actually wants a girlfriend (not sure why). Or it’s all those reasons. Should I just not say anything and leave him alone?

1. Words of affirmation
People with words of affirmation as a love language value verbal acknowledgments of affection, including frequent "I love you's," compliments, words of appreciation, verbal encouragement, and often frequent digital communication like texting and social media engagement.

2. Quality time
People whose love language is quality time feel the most adored when their partner actively wants to spend time with them and is always down to hang out. They particularly love when active listening, eye contact, and full presence are prioritized hallmarks in the relationship.

3. Acts of services
If your love language is acts of service, you value when your partner goes out of their way to make your life easier. It's things like bringing you soup when you're sick, making your coffee for you in the morning, or picking up your dry cleaning for you when you've had a busy day at work.

4. Gifts
Gifts is a pretty straightforward love language: You feel loved when people give you "visual symbols of love," as Chapman calls it. It's not about the monetary value but the symbolic thought behind the item. People with this style recognize and value the gift-giving process: the careful reflection, the deliberate choosing of the object to represent the relationship, and the emotional benefits from receiving the present.

5. Physical touch
People with physical touch as their love language feel loved when they receive physical signs of affection, including kissing, holding hands, cuddling on the couch, and sex. Physical intimacy and touch can be incredibly affirming and serve as a powerful emotional connector for people with this love language. The roots go back to our childhood, Motamedi notes, some people only felt deep affection and love by their parents when they were held, kissed, or touched.