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Long story short, my ex didn't believe our daughter is his, dna test came back and proved it. We were still being respectful to each other during the whole time but barely talked since he didn't want to get involved until a dna test.

Now he wants to be involved which I appreciate for our daughter.

At 7 months pregnant I moved back home (from us to Europe) to support my daughter and make the best life possible for her having no support from him. I informed him about everything.

Its been almost 2 years since we broke up , saw each other and maybe talked like 5 or 6 times... until recently when the dna came back.

He wants to come out here and spend time with his daughter which I am actually happy that her father wants to be involved. We live in a one bedroom apartment and he wants to stay with us. I told him I would like him to get a Hotel room. we had barely any contact for 2 years I just dont feel comfortable with him staying here. He can spend as much time as he wants over here but I would appreciate him not to permanently stay and have a room to get back to. We never lived together and I just kinda like having our own little place for my daughter and I.

He got all mad at me saying he is already spending a lot on plane tickets and he can't afford a hotel as well. He says I would be keeping him from his daughter as he already lost so much time. I dont want to stand between them but dont want to compromise our safe space for a man I haven't seen in 2 years.

Just a thought because my last ex was fat actually. I know there's a stigma with that word, but I'm just telling it like it is and describing him.

Do you think most people end up with their same size of a partner? I don't like that to be honest with you because it's not like they can HELP their body type! (Nor can I for that matter and I'd be the skinny one in the relationship). How much a person weighs and their body shape is a lot based on genetics and lifestyle! One you can control yes, but the other you can't! Also, I think age is and health is a big factor as well!.. Your thoughts?

Plus, I've seen "different shaped couples" work out so..

The actor John Goodman (from Rossanne fame), his real life wife was, I wouldn't say skinny, but definitely not fat. She just started gaining weight after having children and aging, but when she was younger, she wasn't his body shape!

My ex's brother is also skinny but his wife is more of normal shape.

I also had another ex who had a friend who was dating this fat chick. It was like a ball and stick I would say to myself lol. Sorry yeah, that was mean. I learned my lesson lol. It's just that she wasn't always nice lol and so I guess I gave her that nickname in my head to make up for it lol. .. And the dude was skinner than normal, that's why.

Update: Just like being racist, it's not like you can always control your body shape! and people can change shape once they get older, get sick, situation, socio-economic changes, etc!