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I spent 2 years with a guy who initially said he didn’t want a relationship, but we eventually fell in love. He treated me like his girlfriend—introducing me to friends and family, celebrating birthdays with surprises, traveling together, being deeply intimate, and talking every day. He listened to my problems and helped me through tough times. I truly believed we had something real, and from the outside, it seemed like the perfect relationship.

But over time, he started pulling away, prioritizing friends and family over me. He bluntly told me, “I won’t marry you,” and then left for Iraq, saying he’d been honest from the start about going back to his country. When I asked about trying long-distance, he called me a burden, criticized me for my family issues, and even said he had to tell me what to do about a cockroach in my condo. He claimed I should have understood when he said he wouldn’t marry me. I begged him to reconsider, but he quickly moved on, even saying we could still be “friends on Facebook.”

He’s already back on dating apps, seemingly unaffected by our breakup. Now I’m wondering—was I being used? Was I wrong to think we had something real? What kind of person moves on so easily?

I have a long term (male) friend who I’ve known since I was 12 and he was 11. I am now 24, going through a divorce after 6 months of marriage and he is now 23 with a child (not even 5 years). Personally that’s not a dealbreaker for me because he genuinely is a good guy. However, my question is should I pursue a friendship with this old flame? We admitted that we liked each other in grade 11 and we just got back in contact literally a few days ago lol. What should I do? I honestly liked him since I was 12 and I am friends with his sister (also since 12). Is this fate or am I trippin. Please be real because this is something I really want but I’m nervous on how to move forward because my marriage turned out to be a big flop/fail! HELP LOL!