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28F, I sold my condo 2 months ago & moved back in with my mom to save up money for my future home. The longest my mother and I have gone without talking was a yr back in 2020 & we were back in good terms fall 2021. Since I’ve moved back in that broke the streak, this is our second argument since last month.

We haven’t spoken for two wks and we had a concert scheduled tonight, along with her boyfriend. I decided I don’t want to go again, she texted me last night when she was at my grandmas place to confirm & I told her I don’t think I want to go again. I was going to text her this morning if she didn’t ask & she went off. Only downside is she has to take an Uber & I already paid her for the tickets, since is the convo:

Her: Dan are you going to see Air Supply tomorrow?

Me: I was going to message tomorrow morning, I don’t think so

Her: Is it cause we’re not speaking?

Me: No

Her:It’s unfortunate you’re not going because I know you like them. It would have been nice if you had the decency to let me know that you were planning to cancel all along. This is the second time concert wise that after money is spent that you make these decisions. I won't bug you to go to concerts again because it’s not cool how you play these games.

Me: Are you serious? I was going to tell you tomorrow morning & I paid you back for the tickets, you’re just having to pay for an Uber? Whatever

Her: Uber is not the issue. I am going regardless so don’t go there. I am talking about how we made plans and you did not have the decency to tell me that you changed your mind. You’re too caught up in your ways to realize what I’m saying so I won’t waste my time.

I have always had a tendency to be hasty & remove people from my life on social media & overall when there’s an issue. I am very selective when it comes to people so I don’t think that I’m a bad judge of character or settle with friendships/relationships for the sake of having company. Maybe it isn’t hasty bc I think it through for a while before I do it, I don’t want to label it either as this is apparently a trait of Borderline Personality Disorder. Maybe there’s nothing wrong with me & I just don’t like people?

Anyway, I had gamer friends through an online game & we’ve been talking for a little over 2 years. It was more frequent around peak COVID & as of recently we haven’t been in contact as often. There’s one I like more than the other (as a person not romantically) & he’s better at gaming but he has a tendency to make conceited remarks that have rubbed me the wrong way for a while. It’s been a while since he made one but it’s been gnawing at me. The other one is ditzy, he annoys me & while he also has said things that irritated me, I was quicker to delete the other one. I just deleted the ditzy one today bc it didn’t make sense to keep one & not the other, as the better one who I was closer to was online more often. The better one wished me a merry Christmas & I left his message on seen. I don’t think he realizes that he’s been deleted, it’s been a few weeks. The ditzy guy might catch on quicker, they’re both still online friends but rarely talk.