Trying to adopt a less is more mindset while dating. Hard me as I tend to give a lot to people I like and fast. Any advice to a nice overthinker?

[Anonymous]

Reconnected with a new girl for a few weeks now and things are going well. My mindset up until now with dating has always been to give a lot and make the other person feel special. All of my friends and family say this and it’s just a part of who I am, even to the point we’re my ex took advantage of it, without me even realizing. Now with this new girl my mindset has changed “to less is more” especially when just getting to know someone but my old tactics come back into play once and a while. Today I brought her coffee as I was in the area and wanted to see her briefly. She obviously appreciated it and texted loving emojis after and I replied playfully with a GIF and she responded with more love emojis. Then I started overthink if I need to respond to her again. I get caught up in thought that she may be thinking why hasn’t this guy even responded, or whatever really and that’s why she won’t text me now. So it’s a mental battle between trying to not let people take advantage of my kindness while also not wanting to loose my sense of self. Any advice for people trying to shift their mindset within relationships?

[Guy13]

Stop doing it and be a nice man of Action. Focus mostly on her in meaningful way like flowers etc BUT not Needy and have to talk more than the woman. That's her department and you are not really supposed to like it.

[Selene1600000]

Don’t swing from give everything to play it cool the goal is balanced effort, not extremes. Be kind because it’s who you are, but match her energy and don’t overthink every message or silence. A dating coach for men would tell you consistency and self respect matter more than trying to control every little interaction.