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I took the girl I'm seeing out on her birthday and we had a great time.
Two days later I called her, she called me back an explained that she was out eating with her two kids and their father celebrating her birthday and that she'd call me back. Which she did. Afterwards he did stop by her place to spend time with his kids.
I played everything cool. But is this really part of co parenting? She has in her past assured me her disdain of doing the co parenting and meeting up with the father and says she does it just for the kids. I do show her support on that.
But I do admit going out to eat or doing other things "together" does bother me, before I explain this to her I want to know other opinions what should I expect from her co parenting with the father of her kids. I don't want to be selfish and force something on her kids but I also feel that if they her and their father are not together then they are going to have to know eventually.
Should I expect her to tell me everything that they do or when or where they go? Should I trust her enough to where I shouldn't worry.

My stepdad is a radical Christian and usually a very bigoted person. Even though he doesn't act the part, he sometimes can be racist as well. Not in the classical sense like the Nazis or the Klansmen, but he's still pretty racist. He doesn't believe people make mistakes and he is almost completely anti-science. He thinks our generation is easily triggered, but he is easily triggered by scientific facts such as "humans are (social) animals." He claims to be a centrist (read: he's a centrist in name only), when literally THE ONLY left-wing thing he agrees with is on vaccination, and even then he is abhorrently anti-Gavin Newsom. His personality reminds me a lot like Donald Trump's, but with the dementia of Joe Biden's (not that I support either "president;" they're both fascist clowns).

In addition, my mom is a closed-minded idiot. She is at least tolerant of racial and sexual minorities, akin to Joe Biden and Kamala Harris. Not as bad as my stepdad, nor a staunch conservative (in my opinion she's a right-leaning moderate libertarian and capitalist based on her talking points; moderately anti-Democrat though, rather than staunchly like my stepdad), but still a very bad person. She has a neo-Koch-brotherist personality, she literally said she doesn't want me getting a job (especially as a cashier, when literally THAT is the only type of job that is looking to hire me) and thinks that my cons outweigh my pros. In other words, my mom doesn't support me like she says she "does." She worries about my SSI, and she doesn't want me to be ahead of my 21-22yo peers (and slightly younger, 18-20yo friends).

Had it not been for my stepdad, I would never have written those stupid racist social media posts and made unsolicited sexual remarks to girls in my teens, nor would I even have said the N-word in the 9th grade. I hear that word with a hard 'er' occasionally coming out of my brother's mouth. My stepdad is more tolerant of the N-word than he is of "freaking!"