I’m not considered attractive in my country-or at least that’s the impression I get due to the lack of attention I receive. Some people say that the reason guys might not go up to a girl is because they’re intimidated by how pretty she is, but I know that isn’t the case with me.
Now I am shy and I struggle with social anxiety, so much so that I can’t even look people in the eyes. So this probably is a factor. I know I don’t radiate confident and happy, so people in general probably won’t approach me.
But I worry that I may never accomplish my goal of being in a long-term, loving relationship.
I know that there are some things I can change, but I feel like I don’t deserve to be happy and confident because I look extremely unattractive and awkward when I attempt to do so.
I will go into detail about my insecurities now:
I am overweight. Not obese, but not thin by any means. My face is wide and round with a small forehead. I would like to shed a couple pounds for health reasons, but I don’t feel the need to change my body completely. I like my soft curves.
I have an overbite so my smile looks strange when I do smile. We can’t afford an orthodontist... we’re kind of poor and in debt.
I have pretty bad acne due to teenage hormones. This is a major insecurity of mine. And my limbs are dry and bumpy.
I’m Asian, I know that a lot of men won’t outwardly say it, but many have a preference for white girls only.
My eyelids are uneven and one droops more than the other. I always look sleepy or pissed in photos lmao... yeah... not photogenic at all. Also they look kind of small compared to the rest of my face, but at least I can do them up with makeup ^^
Maybe all hope isn’t lost... maybe I can snag a dude with my personality... but bc I’m shy, it will be extremely hard to let my other personality aspects shine through... and I’m mostly shy bc I look weird... it’s just a viscous cycle.
Still though, I know I’m a sweet person, I’m just in a really sad place at the moment.
I want you to remember what I’m about to say. You are YOUnique. At your age I felt the same EXACT way. I’m Black and I’m a woman so I can relate. When I was in High school I thought I was hideous and fat. My self esteem was so low but after graduating I started realizing that there are men out there that want me for more than just what I look like. I also think that I’m more confident enough to wear clothes that make me look good and glow up from how I was when I was a teen. Over time you’ll come to the realization that you are beautiful and everyone is beautiful in their own way. We may not be the beauty standard but that makes us unique. Work on yourself before trying to attract guys. They will naturally come to you when the time comes❤️