Can an unattractive girl find love?

[Anonymous]

Hi..
I’m not considered attractive in my country-or at least that’s the impression I get due to the lack of attention I receive. Some people say that the reason guys might not go up to a girl is because they’re intimidated by how pretty she is, but I know that isn’t the case with me.
Now I am shy and I struggle with social anxiety, so much so that I can’t even look people in the eyes. So this probably is a factor. I know I don’t radiate confident and happy, so people in general probably won’t approach me.
But I worry that I may never accomplish my goal of being in a long-term, loving relationship.
I know that there are some things I can change, but I feel like I don’t deserve to be happy and confident because I look extremely unattractive and awkward when I attempt to do so.
I will go into detail about my insecurities now:
I am overweight. Not obese, but not thin by any means. My face is wide and round with a small forehead. I would like to shed a couple pounds for health reasons, but I don’t feel the need to change my body completely. I like my soft curves.
I have an overbite so my smile looks strange when I do smile. We can’t afford an orthodontist... we’re kind of poor and in debt.
I have pretty bad acne due to teenage hormones. This is a major insecurity of mine. And my limbs are dry and bumpy.
I’m Asian, I know that a lot of men won’t outwardly say it, but many have a preference for white girls only.
My eyelids are uneven and one droops more than the other. I always look sleepy or pissed in photos lmao... yeah... not photogenic at all. Also they look kind of small compared to the rest of my face, but at least I can do them up with makeup ^^
Maybe all hope isn’t lost... maybe I can snag a dude with my personality... but bc I’m shy, it will be extremely hard to let my other personality aspects shine through... and I’m mostly shy bc I look weird... it’s just a viscous cycle.
Still though, I know I’m a sweet person, I’m just in a really sad place at the moment.

[awkfemme]

I want you to remember what I’m about to say. You are YOUnique. At your age I felt the same EXACT way. I’m Black and I’m a woman so I can relate. When I was in High school I thought I was hideous and fat. My self esteem was so low but after graduating I started realizing that there are men out there that want me for more than just what I look like. I also think that I’m more confident enough to wear clothes that make me look good and glow up from how I was when I was a teen. Over time you’ll come to the realization that you are beautiful and everyone is beautiful in their own way. We may not be the beauty standard but that makes us unique. Work on yourself before trying to attract guys. They will naturally come to you when the time comes❤️

[Anonymous]

I’d say yes, most of the guys I know all love girls who are confident. I don't know how it is for other guys but I feel like if you are confident with yourself, you could get an awesome guy.

[Opinion Owner]

Hang in there and just remember to be you! The right guy will come❤️

[ohshee]

Be patient be patient don't try to grow up too fast because one day you'll be saying damn I wish I was young again I have all these problems I wish I didn't have all these responsibilities and I wish I had a nice guy when you're in a hurry you're going to get the worst guys ever just relax and let it happen and understand true beauty your beauty is on the inside I would say you're probably beautiful on the outside anyway just by reading your words. I can tell you're beautiful anyway the real beauty is on the inside the better person you come on the inside the more beautiful you become on the inside that's what guys look for the outside of you is just a bonus I guarantee you going to find love just be patient

[NotARobberYet]

"I’m Asian, I know that a lot of men won’t outwardly say it, but many have a preference for white girls only."

If you're not a white girl trolling (because this is what it seems when you claim that most men have a preference for white girls since white girls are mediocre and every dating stats show that), I tell you to stop putting yourself down.

It's hard for everyone to find actual love these days, whether he/she is attractive or not, since our societies have become anti-love.

Attractive people can find people to mess around with. But actual love? That's rare these days.

[Curious_Pepper]

You must be a white guy if you think this. In Asian countries, European features are the beauty standard. Why do you think skin lightening is a big industry there? You an even get whitening supplements injected into you

[boggboss]

Your insecurities are not the issue why men won't approach or find u attractive u have been sold the great lie that men only want white skinny perfect women which is far from true im not suprised u fell for it as billions are spent on selling products to make women feel acceptable when realisticly its most women that care about said products as for being shy that will be a issue as if males are not approaching you it could be because u are not showing guys you are intrested so learning to be a bit more socially confidant would be a good direction to go in

[boggboss]

Also your actual view off yourself needs to change as if u believe u don't deserve love or a long term relationship u will in most cases self sabotage attempts at getting it believing it won't happen or is pointless

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Don't rush this, when I was 16 I honestly believed that I'm so unattractive and I'm one of the most awkward creatures created.
I, like you, wanted to be in a relationship and I didn't have the best social abilities, for me it was mysterious what would it take to get where I want, when I had a burning desire to look attractive I just started doing all that was in my hands, workouts at home (luckily I was already tall), I started to understand what haircuts actually fit and again I was lucky enough to have my beard fully grow at 17, and I took leaps in confidence because of people's support and trying new things, day after day I could see the interest in me, I never had this attention in my entire life and I was happy with it, I haven't gotten into a serious relationship until 2 years after but by then a lot has changed, all you have to do is prepare for when the opportunity comes your way, do what's in your hands and everything else God will take care of.

[Qdbrown]

If you think your ugly, instead of believing that, do something about that. There are things anyone can do to improve their image. Maybe even better clothes and attitude.

Social awkwardness is usually what scares others because people can sense something wrong. People pick up on social ques, and lack thereof.

[Adam1978]

Well you have to get your insecurities out of the way. By accepting the state they are. Then you have to take actions the lower value you got the more it's on you to approach and make contact. Start with practice just making small talk with guys. The whole ask someone out and show your interest can wait until you can see that approaching a guy isn't likely to be a bad experience.

[MotorcycleMan]

Of course she can, and "attractive" is all a matter of opinion and everyone has a different one. Please don't hide your smile just because you don't think it's perfect, a smile, even a goofy one makes everyone more attractive. There are people out there who will love you just the way you are :)

[HiveBee]

In my experience the bottom of the barrel girls all got tonsof kids and a poor bastard husband who dealswith her bullshit for reasons i can't even imagine.

I think all women have a shot at having kids and finding love. I dont think the same is even remotely true for men. You females are lucky.

Except for the rapes and sexual harassment. But maybe that's how things balance out?

[The_Maphio]

There are several unattractive dudes around just as well. Maybe your lack of good looks (or self appointed such) are a good chance to see more than meets the eye about a meaningful, long lasting relationship with a man.

[Kha0tiic_xo]

Anyone can find love, just because this girl may think she's unattractive doesn't mean everyone does She needs to build her self esteem!

[razzmatazz21]

Sure they can. I was recently dating a girl who wasn't very attractive. She became very clingy so we broke up but if that didn't happen we'd still be together. Of course she let me do whatever I wanted sexually.

[josh1138]

Yeh it's OK I'm sure you will find someone but I feel I can sympathise with you as I have a similar situation, and also feel like I'm having a hard time. I also feel that we tend to always find flaws in ourselves but others may not be quite so picky.

[Archerer]

You are too young, relax... When you are older you will never think about this shit, or you will look back and think how silly you were to. Yes there is hope for unattractive people.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sure can!! Some guys don't care how you look and go for personality.

[SHREYASH007]

I need to see you to draw any conclusion about how you look , I cannot suggest anything randomly, if you want to ask something dm me.

[Nadim171]

Anyone can get attention, but you must be willing to settle for an unattractive man. He is suffering from your same problem.

[Anonymous]

It's suprising how you haven't got many answers from other Girls.

I personally think a Girl like you has a better chance at finding love than a Shy Guy who isn't that Attractive.

[Shihab91]

you are always attractive in someone eyes, be confident

[Clarke498]

You seriously think 0 unattractive women has gotten married?

[bamesjond0069]

Try talking to butt ugly men. Or show you aren't a lazy ass and lose the weight.

[Iron_Man]

Yes of course after she graduates high school

[Luckycharms12]

Everyone can find love and deserves to be happy

[Qdbrown]

No one deserves anything. Nada. You strive and work for what you want and need. But nature makes no guarantees.