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There's an old saying a leopard never changes it's spots.

So someone who is abusive likely will never change. Someone who uses drugs will likely never change. Someone who doesn't manage mental health issues properly likely never will.

And so forth.

Given this do you feel that it's smart to get a background & other - such as financial / credit (for gambling issues, etc.) - checks on someone you're dating / getting into a relationship.

Particularly as unless you know person - via friends, neighbors or work - you're likely never going to meet the previous people they dated & thus have no reference for their behavior.

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It's very easy - and happens quite often - for abusive individuals to pretend to be "nice" until they lull their victims into a sense of false security.

And by doing checks you can find out that "nice guy (or girl)" may have being beating the shit out of their previous partner BEFORE they are beating the shit out of you.

Hello!! How’re you guys? I am just inquiring about a dude who is actually my psychologist. He has been doing the whole eyebrow raising at me when I am just looking away. 👀 of course I can see this and tell myself he is just taking an interest. But then he dims the lights and puts a do not disturb sign on the door. Then he makes a deal with me about being kinder to myself and he holds my hand for literally a minute. And makes deeeeep eye contact. I’m shy 🙈 so I look away but he keeps looking. Being that he asks about my life and takes an interest I kind of am falling for him. But recently I found out he has a girlfriend. Is this just me that this man is secretly into me? I need your help! You guys are smart! What do I do also?