Can you have a relationship and opinions at the same timd?

[Anonymous]

Every guy I know wives the girl who is quiet and an echo chamber for whatever he believes. Like being smart embarrasses him cuz he has to know more than she does. Guys keep calling me interesting or wild for having thoughts that aren't even weird or controversial and if a guy had that same thought they'd tell him he's a genius. I can't find anyone who doesn't talk down to me and try to make me feel insecure and dumb myself down and be quiet. I even just searched through all the questions on here about how to be datable instead of just a friends with benefits and they all say the same thing. A girl who is quiet. So what? Does that mean my choices are between killing who I am to become a silent wall for them to bounce a ball off of? The guy I'm talking to now I bite my tongue 24-7 and it's draining my soul. He really likes me tho cuz I never talk. Wants to introduce me to his parents and talks about marriage. I hate it. Why can't I deserve those things and be a person at the same time? I just want to be a person but everytime I say words people act like I'm the biggest wildest most unhinged crazypants lady in the world for just reading books. Where do you find guys who dont hate you who don't just want you to be their very quiet blow up doll?

[JeffersonA]

Most wives I know do but it also depends on the place.

Guys party o yeah same as my hubby

Girls party or shower wow she thinks differently.

Family depends on whose

Just often depends I know a lot of guys think the same as Thier wives also and just echo what they say.

Also they married for a reason they believe the same and like a lot of the same stuff

[RavVid]

Sounds odd. I expect a girl to be interested in the world around her.

There are a few no'. s

Arrogant ignorance. I have no time for this.

You can have left wing politics but I notice that left wing people have a culture of insulting the right but very much dislike the reverse. I have no time for this.

Other than that I don't see a problem
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[slatyb]

I wouldn't date a woman with no opinions of her own. That's boring. Tell me something I don't know. Recommend a book. Play some music I have never heard. Take me to a place I have never been. Get me to try something I have never done.

[GreatBigCircles]

If every guy you know is an egotistical PoS, it's time to start thing about what kind of guys you're looking at and where you're looking for them. A change in location necessitates a change in perspective after all.

[GreatBigCircles]

Derp, I completely forgot half of what I wanted to say. Good places to start looking is places that encourage interaction beyond just hooking up. Depending on where you live and what's available, local arcades, board game stores, book clubs, and community sporting events are all great places.