Search Results: thinking about friends as more

I met an amazing guy, who is my age.
My dad does not agree with the relationship because he thinks I'm being lustful and emotional and taking my focus off my education, which is funny because he never took the time to ask me how I'm going with my studies but the minute he knows I'm in a relationship he says that even after I told him that my grades have improved and that I go better in school ever since I've been with this guy.

I have an African dad, and most African people or at least Nigerian people, when they hear relationship they think immediately of sex outside of marriage. And me being in a relationship at 18 is like me being rebellious and thinking I can do whatever I want because I'm 18, that's what my dad thinks. But the reality is that I met this guy now at 18 and I couldn't let the chance go.

He tries talking me out of this relationship he does not care about the fact that I'm genuinely happy and that many things have improved in my life... for once I do not have to deal with everything alone. All he cares about is me being submissive and taking his word as law.

My aunty called and said the same thing and basically that I'm too young and that I should just focus on my education. I just feel stressed, overwhelmed and misunderstood.

Even when it comes to lust or sex... as a Christian couple we talked about these things and we have boundaries and our thoughts aren't focused on those things at all because we believe that things like that should be done in the confines of marriage.

But yet, nothing, almost as if no one other than my mom and close friends understand.

I feel overwhelmed because I've always wanted a guy like the guy I currently have right now yet it's like I can't be happy.

My dad, and my aunty and I'm sure my other close relatives will continue to say the same thing, they make me feel young and stupid, I'm even tired of standing up for myself and relationship. It is exhausting, I just want to be happy, I don't know what to do.

A few years ago, a high school friend created a dating profile for me on a website since she wanted to see me with a boyfriend (i know, weird). Anyway, I used the profile and started chatting it up with a few men, some I even know today. One guy, in particular, liked me a lot, even though I wasn't too keen on him at first. I entertained him since I was bored, but I eventually developed feelings for him. I did break it off with him because he lived 3 hours away from me, gave off very aggressive vibes, and I started to like someone closer by. Over time, he was on my mind, and we did text each other occasionally, but it was very short convos. He even wrote many poems about how heartbroken he was that I ended that online long-distance thing with him too.

Fast forward to recently, he told me he was joining the military and wanted to pursue me again. I was interested and was thinking about him frequently while he was at boot camp. Right after he came back, we texted like usual, and everything was fine until he wanted to make a last-minute trip to see me before leaving the country. I had to decline and that changed the dynamic of the relationship a little bit. A few weeks later, he informed me that he had gotten a girl pregnant. I immediately cut contact with him since he betrayed me somewhat. Now, he's texting me frequently and calling, claiming that he loves me still and cannot die without giving "us" a chance. He knew what he did was wrong and apologized for his mistakes to the point he doesn't think about anything sexual anymore as often as he once did. Do you think it is worth it to pursue a relationship with him with all of this information or should i let him be? I don't want to waste time in a toxic relationship.