Girls, Why did she behave so confusing?

[Anonymous]

The most complicated girl I ever met… pls help understand This story has got me thinking and confused for the last few months. I’m 21/M and I had a crush on an ex-colleague (29 and from another country/culture). This began in January. I would say she is not mature enough for her age, so the age difference was never feelable when we met. We have met couple of times, taking cocktails, dinner in a fancy restaurant, and to point out that i mean this as a date, i even wrote it down to her. When we met she gave me signs, like touching, cuddling. She sometimes ignored me, then always came back. Once she explained that she ignored me bc she thinks of me only as a friend. For months we’ve been playing this game, flirting, “dating”, ignoring. Then in August, I moved to a foreign country to take exchange studies for two semesters. Before travelling, I met the girl in a cozy bar, and she again said many times that i am just a friend. However we left the bar holding hands, walking like that for hours. Then she cuddled me, our foreheads touched, looked each other in the eye, she have me a cheek kiss. At this point i would normally kiss the girl, but i was so confused because of the “friendzoning” earlier that evening. I don’t think she does this to all male friends, and it’s odd that someone friendzones a person and then behaves like a teen in love. What do u think happened here? Was I just played and used the whole time?

[PrettyPriya]

She is definitely sending mixed signals. Friends to hold hands and cuddle. That said, she probably viewed your upcoming mover to another country as a sign that there was no real possibility of a relationship.

Perhaps she wanted to have that feeling of an intimate moment before you left for your studies abroad. That is the only thing that makes any sort of sense to me. I don’t think that she handled it quite right considering the signals she was sending, knowing that you were leaving.

She should have said that you were just friends from the beginning so there was no confusion like there is now. I think that is where she failed. If she knew you were leaving, she should have just kept it to friends.

There is no reason two friends cannot go out and have a good time, but all the things that she did indicates that she wanted something more. I wouldn’t call it being played, but I do not think she handled the situation the way she should/could have.

[Anonymous]

I am guessing she wanted more than you were prepared to give.