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My boyfriend told me that because he grew up with his father, he is a difficult person to live with and he tries to be nothing like him (jealous, thinks he is always right, selfish, moody). He likes to control everybody's life, asking many questions about the simplest things, always trying to find the bad and negative things everywhere. My boyfriend is a very down to earth person he doesn't let anything get to him or destroy his mood and thats a characteristic that makes his father even angrier when he tries to argue with him about stuff that he doesn't agree with. Today I got upset because my boyfriend and his father were alone and they started talking about me, he was asking my boyfriend if he is truly happy with me, that he doesn't like how I speak with my boyfriend and I'm too rude and always look angry and mad with my boyfriend. My boyfriend defended me and said that I'm only rude or shout when he annoys me and that he likes annoying me and he is really happy with me and we are doing great, but his father continued saying that that's not what he sees and that I have to control myself and not be rude. I'll admit I'm not a saint I do get annoyed easily and I can speak in a higher tone with my boyfriend sometimes when he does annoying stuff and only when I speak louder does he listen, but that's something that my boyfriend knows about me and he doesn't get offended about it. Am I an asshole for feeling angry with his father, I don't like people getting involved In our relationship when we are doing so great and we didn't ask for any advice. I feel like his questions were not out of interest for my boyfriends future or out of love, I feel like he wanted to make my boyfriend feel that I'm not good enough, I don't know how to explain it.

I’ve been with this guy for 7 years now on and off. We had just got back together and things were going fine. We are both senior execs in different companies so he knows I travel a lot for work. It was my birthday and I had to be in NY for a business gala thing. A guy friend of mine who I’ve talked to once in the past but who I realized I wasn’t interested in messaged me happy birthday and wanted to hang out. I let my guy know everything and asked if he was comfortable with me meeting up with him and that it was fine either way. He said for me to do what I thought was best but then ignored me. I ended up meeting up for dinner with him but took a friend with me to buffer. I was dressed apropriately and didn’t flirt but he messaged the next day and wanted to come to my room etc but I said no. When my guy finally stopped ignoring me, we got back to normal and he said he’d just been busy and asked how it went. I told him what happened and suddenly it went 0-100. He said he knew I’d meet up with my friend and that I likely did something for him to proposition me. He said I kept wasting my time on people like that and called me a whore and lemon car.. he also said he figured that guy would slip something in my drink or that I’d eff my friend and he kind of hoped it happened so he could confirm I was defective. He laughed and said at least now he knew he would never marry me. He was incredibly cruel and said everything to try and hurt me. He has never called me a whore before but he has said slut once in the past when he got jealous. Is this justified? Did I do something that horrible? Is this normal? Sorry, just really upset and trying to make sense of it all.