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So in relationships, people have minor disagreements. I am not talking about cheaters and abuse here. I am talking about things like:

Why does he left the the toilet seat up all the time?

Why doesn't she Never like my IG posts?

Must she squeeze the tooth paste from the top?

Why does he just let his dirty laundry stack up in the corner?

How important are these things to you, and in the end do they really matter, and why do we get hung up over who's right and who is wrong all the time?

When is enough enough?

Feel free to offer a perspective and share why these types of things really matter?

My own standards are to date someone who is on par with me more or less. I’m not perfect. Not a saint. I’ve been told I’m attractive but I know I’m no young Brad Pitt. However I am independent, got a good job, in good health, have a very interesting past and some fun hobbies.

There was only one time in my life I found a woman who was truly on par with me. It tragically didn’t work out because she met me at a bad time in my life. There was also one time I swung for the fences in college and went after a girl who was “out of my league.” She actually approached me first but I had zero game back then and screwed it all up.

But anyway virtually all the women I’ve met who were really into me in last few years weren’t exactly on par. However most of them were confident I would like them. I tried dating a girl who I saw potential in but she had very serious emotional issues (family abuse) that I wasn’t equipped to handle.

Anyway confidence is great. But why is it that women seem to daydream unrealistically about they are entitled to in dating vs. men?