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Let me elaborate a little. Now, I know of course you want your SO and your friends to get along, and hanging out altogether shouldn't be an issue. But I've PERSONALLY always been of the mind that you just don't hang out with your friends SO's privately or talk to them privately. It feels like a line that shouldn't be crossed to me.
Well I have a close friend who views this a little differentially. She sees no issue with it if we all trust one another. We both recently met guys and have started seeing them, however both of us were friends with each guy before we really started "seeing" them if you will. We met her current SO first, nice guy, and again, we were all friends before they started getting serious. Even before they officially announced anything, I could TELL it seemed to be getting serious so I backed off and do not and have not spoken with him privately outside of what's said in front of said friend or in a group chat that she is in.

Now fast forward to meeting my SO. Again, we met mine at the same time and were friends with him before anything started. From the start he was definitely kinda seeking me out, talking to me more than her and what not so it wasn't really a surprise when we started seeing one another however, unlike the boundary I have myself not to cross... she doesn't really seem to have issue with trying to seek him out alone to hang out with or talk to privately. To my understanding my SO is not really receptive to it. Doesn't hang out with her when she offers, and it's hit or miss if he even responds to her when she tries to message him. Not that I've pressed for details, but they've both vaguely mentioned it here or there.

I don't want to be "controlling" or "toxic" or seem like I'm trying to commander their friendships, but I just am unsure if I'm the one with the issue or if there really is something weird about this.

When in reality he is the victim.

the man is searching for his phone in the water.

the gang starts taunting him, belittling him to a point most wouldn’t stay silent to.

Yet he doesn’t speak.

His reaction instead he sort of makes a rush into the water and pushes the circle ⭕️ things that some of them or on.

he then proceeds to walk looking around while the gang is laughing 😂 off smiling verbally assaulting him nonstop.

they then surround him, getting in his face put their hands on him when he had not talked or touched any of them.

they then start to push him into the water one after another before he can even get back up, another one of them pushes him back down and slap him. They continue to do this repeatedly as the man attempts to get back up.

the guy that died, you can clearly see him rush Into the man and shove him back into the water while the man was already down in the water attempting to get back up.

After he shoved him, he throws himself at him, and that’s when he gets stabbed.

Sad he died but he did this to himself!

what business did he have going in to attack this man when he was already being attacked by the whole group?

and they all laughed while doing it.

they only screamed when he started to defend himself.

the media is sickening. To not show these parts of the video. And only want the viewers to feel sorry for the oh “poor kids”. As they repeatedly say to get our emotional side. “A man stabbing “kids””

they were drunk and drugged 17- 24 year olds. They are NOT babies.

they attacked this man.

they couldnt just let the poor man search his phone.
They thought it was funny to assault him and not only that but get physical with him and not expect him to try to defend himself?

where is the commonsense in these people?

for me it’s simple.

Don’t attack someone that’s not doing anything to you, and then scream the victim when they decide to hit you back just because they hit you back harder.
It doesn’t work that way.