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How many people are there out there like me?
I am 27, turning 28 this year, and I have never been in a real relationship before. The closest I have had is a 5 month online relationship where she rejected me upon meeting the first time in person.

Anyways, the girl I had an online relationship with not long ago is getting married to someone else today. I have been extremely depressed over it for a long time. I have cried so much this past week, I can hardly cry anymore. This guy gets to be her first everything.

I noticed that I don't know anyone personally that is in my shoes. I don't know anyone who has made it to my age without having a serious, long term relationship. In fact, most of my peers I have known growing up are married, have kids, or both.

In general I feel men are pressured by society to NOT speak their minds about the issues they have about women publicly. If you don’t believe me then just see how often women post openly on social media about their relationship anger, frustrations, heartbreak, “sexism”, etc vs. how often men do it. However internally men feel all the exact same negative emotions but we are trained not to express them. It’s one of the reasons you see guys writing and posting more on GAG. The anonymity gives us a safer place to ventilate.

There are a few reasons why men are more restrained. Part of it is due to some of us being raised to be chivalrous to women. Unfortunately some women see this as weakness and take advantage of guys who instinctively treat women well. Also feminist propaganda says that a man expressing anger (verbally) is “threatening” and “words can be violence”. When it comes to heartbreak we get far less leeway to look like “bitches”. We train ourselves not to cry.

But seriously if men were allowed to speak their minds (including anger) it would actually be a safer way to ventilate. There would be less REAL violence, less depression, less substance abuse, etc. Just because a guy is pissed off it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have self restraint to not take things over the line.