How many people are out there experiencing this like me?

[Almost_Incel]

How many people are there out there like me?
I am 27, turning 28 this year, and I have never been in a real relationship before. The closest I have had is a 5 month online relationship where she rejected me upon meeting the first time in person.

Anyways, the girl I had an online relationship with not long ago is getting married to someone else today. I have been extremely depressed over it for a long time. I have cried so much this past week, I can hardly cry anymore. This guy gets to be her first everything.

I noticed that I don't know anyone personally that is in my shoes. I don't know anyone who has made it to my age without having a serious, long term relationship. In fact, most of my peers I have known growing up are married, have kids, or both.

Many

Some

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I am in the lowest part of my life right now

[Snsl153]

"... the girl I had an online relationship with..."
Oh you poor thing you. You're one of those people who truly believe that people can have relationships "online", without ever actually having to meet up in real life. She's marrying someone else precisely because what she had with you wasn't seen by her as being an actual relationship.
You're not "almost" an incel, you ARE one.

[Remnaourei2]

I am late 20s like you and have never had a real relationshipm just a few weeks or months long one (most of it was long distance) and he lied saying he wanted to marry me. I don't think that realtionship counts as a "relationship' as he was clearly just an opportunist since i chased him and made it easier than heck to do som i was very delusional back then.

[Remnaourei2]

Easier han heck to use me*

[andreasderjuengere]

It's time to ''wake up'' I guess.
When things aren't going the way you wish them to go - then it's up to you to make changes and adjustments.
Good luck with it. ''Late'' does not always mean: 'TOO late' :)

[Shamalien]

Lot of people in this situation these days man just most of em don’t have successful friends to compare themselves to

[zeitgeist057]

If what you're doing isn't working for you, it's time to change what you are doing.

I understand you're at a low point in your life right now; my hope for you is that you take this as the opportunity it is to turn your life around.

All I know about you is what you just wrote, which is not much. But I would suggest you focus on your self for now. Self as in self-improvement. Get yourself occupied and involved with some activities to make you a happier, healthier (and therefore, more attractive) person.

There are several categories in your life that need to have activity and health:
Social, mental/spiritual, physical, financial. I suggest you identify your current levels of health in these areas, and also identify what you can do to strengthen your health, especially in the weakest categories.

[Anonymous]

I also never been in a serious relationship. Never called anyone my boyfriend, only dated two whom did not want me as a girlfriend after getting to know me..
It seems very rare, I don't know anyone either.. let alone someone in their 30s like me xD

[Jltakk]

I'm literally in the same boat buddy. You aren't alone in your pain. I hate the feeling too.