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In April, we chatted about the end of school stuff he has going on and his career. When I start asking him about it, he says it's hard to explain on text but can explain it better in person. I figured that was his way of trying to set something up. So I replied with, "Oh. Haha. I see. So when do I get to see you in person so you can explain it?" and he says, "Haha. After Easter break I can fit something in."

The next day, people knew about it as a rumor had spread. One of his "friends" pulled me to the side and wanted a "girl chat."

The gist of what she told me:

- He can be a hit or miss. Meaning that he might be a good guy, he might not be.

- That he basically cheated on his girlfriend while she was in New York, but he didn't really do anything either so he technically didn't cheat (her words, not mine).

- Sophomore year, he talked to her for a month, then ghosted her. Then he was taking to someone last December and ghosted her too.

- She said he seems like he's grown up since then, she just wanted to give me a heads up that he's probably in his "player stage."

- She also said that his roommate and best friend are players. I've had several classes with his roommate and he's the sweetest guy. As for his friend, I'll give her that one, he can be trouble.

I wanted to tell him and ask him about it, but there was never a good time as he didn't ask to hang out after she spoke to me. Now, he doesn't reach out first, but if I do he does respond. This past week, we talked for four days straight and I figured that maybe I should say something to him. But yesterday, his friend posted a photo that shows her, him and a couple other people (the people she told me are trouble) at a show. My crush and her were pretty far from each other, but they still obviously hang out and talk.

Is it too late for me to say something to him? I don't want to look like a drama queen.

I just read her update on reddit:

https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/yozb12/my_husband_40_m_and_i_39_f_are_working_things_out/

- She cheats in 2002 with the guy's friend. She was 19 at the time. They were boyfriend and girlfriend.

- The guy forgives, she betters herself, hever cheated since, they get married later on and have 3 kids.

- 20 years later, this time the husband cheats with his co-worker but for different reasons, unrelated to her old cheating.

- The guy falls in love with his co-worker, he exchanges texts about traveling to Paris with her and leaving his kids, spends money on his affair (even steals and uses some of his wife's money) and takes his wife's meals and desserts to feed the woman

- Everything backfired in the end; his AP partner was using him for money. They're currently working things out. She's sounds upset on her post though.