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I met a guy online who told me he stayed on dating sites for 3 years. He told me he never had sex with anyone except for one girl three years ago. He travelled all the way to my city for four hours just to meet me.

When I first met him, I did pull away, but then he tried to prove that not all men are the same. He didn't force me to have sex with him. But then he told me something that somehow scared me—he doesn't want to commit. I did not bother to think about it and just had a good time with him. We shared a lot of talks, fun, and walks. We were both happy and just sending out positive vibes until we had sex together.

After the two days we spent together, he said he had to leave me to visit his friend "girl" in another city, which is 30 minutes away. I was curious about it, but he said she is just a family friend, and they have been friends for many years and are very close. Her family is already his family. He stayed there for three days, and I did not bother to overthink it.

We still communicated together right after he left, and we have been calling and texting each other for three weeks now, getting to know each other better. He eventually told me that he wanted to get serious about me; he sent a lot of kiss and hug emoticons. We become more comfortable with each other.

Now, he told me he wants to drop by to see me in the city next week. I asked him, "Where are you going?" He said to his friend, "Girl," again for two days, but his ultimate goal is to meet me.

I felt uncomfortable and scared if he was telling the truth, and I somehow doubted that this girl could be his girlfriend or fling. I pulled away again from him, even if it did hurt me a lot, and said I needed space.

Now my question is, do I need advice on whether I shouldn't be jealous of this friend's "girl" OR should I be suspicious and cautious of this guy?

Hey, so I met a guy around 7 yr ago while I was working in a restaurant, he asked for my number &then a few weeks later I got a train to see him for the weekend. We got on really really well but I didn’t sleep with him as wernt officially dating, we spoke for months after but I ended up going travelling& when I got back he had a girlfriend, I ended up in a 3 year relationship but then we both somehow ended up single at the same time, he contacted me (as must have seen I deleted all photos of ex) we went on a date and the date was just amazing I can’t explain the butterfly feeling he gives me. Still didn’t sleep with him as I’m old fashioned and we weren’t exclusive.. anyways after the date I got back with my ex and we didn’t speak. A year later I’m single & he gets in touch asking if I’m okay and randomly turned up at my house with flowers to cheer me up. we end up talking for a few weeks and he’s asking me why I never make effort to talk to him and why he’s always chasing me (he’s a basketball player so I’m kind of wary that he’s talking to loads of other girls & I’m a bit shy I’m nowhere near as hot) by the way we still haven’t had sex but just having a really nice connection. Again he goes radio Silent on me.. so fast forward a few months and he rings me drunk saying I’m the only person he’s ever loved and he’s so nervous around me etc.. I thought I would make more effort with him so I start finally messaging first and stuff and we plan to have a night away and we talk about having sex & it gets quiet passionate. then again he goes radio silent. so a month goes by & after hearing nothing from him he pops up merry Christmas I love you & one day your going to be my wife which is random as hell since he practically ghosted me twice this year? Then after talking every night on the phone he’s gone silent again? am I reading this all wrong does he even like me or what? or am I just not making enough effort? & no he doesn’t have a wife or a girlfriend I know his family