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My manager is another woman, who is about 4-5 years older than me. She got promoted into the role relatively recently.

I am a professional, and I am kind but can be firm when necessary. Yet, a conflict came up at work and my boss said to me, "I'm worried that you're too sweet to handle this, so I will take care of it." I found this to be really infantilizing/belittling because I've been working there for a long time and have frequently and successfully handled conflicts and yet she always talks to me like I'm too fragile to handle things. Every other superior in the place has always had confidence in me, so I don't know why she always has to talk down to me like this. I'm getting really sick of it. I've tried to prove that I'm strong enough to handle things, but she just can't seem to accept that I'm capable. I'm starting to think she's threatened by me surpassing her or seeming more capable than her.

Do you think I'm being belittled, or am I being too sensitive?

Plus, if she thinks I'm too "sweet" to handle my job, then why am I there? She's even started calling me "Sweet ____ (insert my name here)" as a nickname...

I started a new job and have found out quickly the reason people quit is because is environment is horrendous. It is mostly coming from one woman who has been there for over 40 years. She is knowledgeable about her job but such a bitchy and mean person. I am stuck with this woman directly as I am working along side her. She constantly tries to put blame on me for things that happened even before I got there. My workload is piling up because she is passing her work onto me.

Not only calling other members of staff, c*nts, pr*cks, stupid b*tches. She started referring to the black people in our office as monkeys and other vicious remarks. Now first I thought I misheard but she said numerous times on Friday and I have not stopped thinking about it all weekend. I have already started applying for new jobs so hope to be out of there soon. Should I tell my other colleagues what has happened and the two girls in HR are the ones she is directing her hate at the most, so I feel I can’t even go to them. And the boss who has only been there 5 year walks on eggshells around this woman cause of the time she has been there. I would have stayed in this job if it was not for this woman. What should I do?