Search Results: thoughts on first date

Hi!

Might be tons of questions like this, but couldn't find any with polls.
And it's always interesting if things has changed in peoples thoughts.

Assume it's online dating;
So when do you guys expects "the first date"-question to be put on the table?

The question is both for the one who asks and the one who receives the question.

Went on a great first date with a girl from Hinge 2 weeks ago. She was busy the week after but suggested a date this week for a second date (last night). I thought the second date started well, started going downhill (some awkward pauses), but I think we salvaged it by the end of the night. Before I dropped her off, I suggested a third date next week, but she said she was busy again, but maybe next Wednesday. Sent a text in the am, and haven’t heard back yet. She does work in an office job, so I’m not sure if she’s ignoring me, or just busy.

I have had at least 75 first dates as a result of online dating, and a few were horrible (pictures not current, lied about age, etc.) Most of them weren't that awful, but we just weren't a good match. When I got some experience with rejecting a lady, I eventually decided that the best thing to do was to walk the lady back to her car, no good night kiss, no hug, tell her that I enjoyed meeting her, she seems like a nice lady, but I don't think we're a good match and I wished her good luck with her search. That stopped any expectations from developing and avoided the appearance of misleading her in any way. Maybe that isn't how she wanted to hear that message, but I thought it was better than taking the easy way out by texting or simply not calling her again.

If you were the lady on one of those first dates, how and when would you want that message conveyed to you? If you were the guy, how do you think that message should be delivered?

(Yes, I know that it isn't entirely up to me to decide whether to have a second date; a woman can reject me after the first date, and I have had that experience. I'm just asking about this from a guy's perspective. If you want to ask about how a girl should reject a guy, you can post your own question.)