Search Results: we like the same guy

For context, my brother has been dating his girlfriend, P, for two years. I absolutely adore P—she’s like the sister I never had. Long before they began dating, however, I met her brother, T. He and I are in the same grade, only about six months apart in age.

I first met T in seventh grade, when he was still a bit of a “geeky” guy. By the middle of eighth grade, I had my first boyfriend and met P for the first time around Thanksgiving. Back in seventh grade, I had a small crush on T, but it was nothing I ever considered acting on.

During freshman year, T and I had science together and started talking occasionally. I began to realize I still liked him. As our siblings grew closer, so did we. Whenever we passed each other in the hallways, we would exchange smiles—he has the cutest dimples when he smiles.

By the end of freshman year, I wanted to ask for his number, but I was too nervous. He was talking to someone at the time, and I didn’t want to overstep boundaries; if I were in that girl’s position, I wouldn’t want him giving out his number to other girls.

I hadn’t seen him for about three months until today, when we had back-to-school night. He was there with a friend, and he smiled at me like no time had passed. Later, he came over to my house because he, my brother, and P were going to the lake. When I saw him, my heart skipped several beats. I tried to keep my cool, distracting myself by making cookies and watching a show.

I don’t know if he’s dating or talking to anyone. If he’s not, I’m wondering if I should ask for his number and get to know him better. Before pursuing anything, I would make sure P was comfortable with it, because the last thing I’d want is to betray her trust or cross a boundary in our friendship.

Would you say it’s ok to talk to more than one person at once on a dating app? Or should you only speak to one person at once?

I’ve recently downloaded a dating app, and I’m talking to a few guys on it. I suppose getting to know them all at the same time and seeing if there’s one I like most. Is that wrong? If things were to get more serious with any of them them obviously I’d stop speaking to the rest.

thoughts?

I was at the mall today and this guy stopped me to tell me I’m gorgeous.

I looked around to see if it was a prank and ultimately said no. And I thanked him for being sweet

then I tried to leave and he got in front of me to stop me, I said I was in a hurry.

he said I was too beautiful for this opportunity to just slip by and if I could just take his number

I said no sorry I’m in a hurry. I didn’t want to say I’m too old, I just knew it and wanted to leave and he got in-front of me again and insisted I take his number so I did it.

so he’s texting me now and I told him I’m more than 10+ years older than you so this is not gonna work, wish you the best.

but he insists that it can work because I’m exactly his type. He says

and what’s weirder is that I wasn’t wearing any makeup at all! And wearing large oversized pants and large oversized shirt. How is this even attractive. I feel strange.

I almost never go out. I don’t have a partner and don’t have kids.

I want family as most do, but I think a 27 year old will not stay with me because of the age even if he says he feels im his type.

what’s your guy’s advice?

I know plenty of women who by 40 are already done with relationships, already had kids and just want to have fun, maybe that type is the type most 27 year olds would want because it’s just a “fun time” and then move on..

but I’m different. I’m not done with relationships because I’ve never had one. I’m not done with kids because I’ve never tried to have one before. I’m want a permanent partner, love and a little family.

If he insists I need to just keep saying no right?

we look about the same age but the fact remains I’m 10+years older