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So there's a guy i accidentally started chatting to on the dating app im on. he's not after anything long term and i wouldn't be interested as he has a kid but as i found him attractive i swiped right when he didn't have that on his profile.

He told me straight away what he was after, without any of the crap i had before that they wanted to meet without saying what they wanted.

I told him the truth about never done anything before and my health and that if he didn't wanna continue talking he didn't have to.

Now he hinted that i could use him as a way of preparing me for whats to expect when it comes to guys. I did say i have attachment issues but we did agree if it did happen thered be no kissing or dates etc

Only thing im concerned about is im saying there won't be anything risky happening but im not sure if he would be hoping for more.

I've said if were still talking by the time my birthday comes around (14th) that we'd meet for a drink not far from where i live (obv im not gonna tell him that) and see what comes of that

He sent me a few pics, one with pants and one without, even tho i did say to keep them on. But the last pic didn't reveal anything and they put a block on photos too risky

Tried to find him on fb to no use and he obv split from his girlfriend and has court orders (but then my brother does and he hasn't done anything wrong)

29F, have been told I’m pretty/attractive, have a younger face which is how I could be deemed as cute instead. When I tell you I’ve never been approached by a guy I’d actually want to date, I get attention from guys in person but it’s usually the questionable ones. I’ve been told on and off in the past that a guy I found attractive would look at me/found me attractive but never did anything about it (I’m too shy to also). I don’t have any in person friends as I work remote & sadly only rely on dating apps. The guys I match with I find attractive but not sure if I’m just unlucky (likely the case) or it’s dating apps as a whole but for some reason it doesn’t work out for a multitude of reasons. If those guys actually noticed me in person I would feel a little bit more secure. My thing is I’m pretty old in my opinion, as most people my age are married & have kids. I only have a str under my belt from a few years ago when I was in my early twenties & have been single since. I have this mindset that if I was actually attractive, I would’ve had quality guys lined up by now. Since that str, I’m very selective & am even quicker to stop something in its tracks if the guy does something that turns me off/isn’t what I’m fully looking for. I think dating has treated me very unfairly as “pretty girls” don’t deal with this, unless I’m missing something. And I’ll add this even though it shouldn’t matter that much in the very early talking stages: I don’t care about sex much at all, maybe overthinking it but unsure if that vibe is picked up on being so reserved.

TLDR: would you also think you’re unattractive if you’re almost thirty & don’t ever get attention from guys you’d actually consider dating?

I used to have a stranger crush on a guy from college and the feeling was Mutual (according to his friends) but we never talked and he seemed very reserved around me and never made any moves.

Now years later he met another girl in college he works with in a group and he was very flirty and confident around her from the very beginning, he acts very touchy feely with her, leans in, acts cutesy and started dressing better.

Why did he never try to impress me or talk to me like that If he was crushing on me too? Does he find her more attractive? Or is it because he has established rapport with her but not with me? Or because she is more outgoing and talkative?