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To simplify things, I had a huge crush on a man. We both flirted with each other and it was clear (well it is now) that he was into me. However, we couldn’t be together (I won’t explain why).

He always displayed some kind of jealousy when he saw me with another man I. e giving them dirty looks, asking me if I was with them, getting upset when he found out I was chatting to his male colleague on Instagram.

I moved on and I’m now engaged. For some reason, he DESPISES my partner. He always gives him dirty looks, ignores him, presumed at first he was just a friend. When he found out I was buying a house, he seemed very happy but when he found out I was buying it with my partner, the smile vanished off his face.

Every time I see him, he is asking about our relationship and if it is working out. He asks how things are, and when I ask how things are with him, he says (abruptly) “perfect. Everything’s perfect.”

Long story short, I am having trouble picking between two men that are both amazing but in very different ways. They are complete opposites and both having qualities I love. I met guy#1 several months ago and we both instantly felt an intense pull towards each other the moment we met. Our chemistry was out of this world. I had never felt that way about a man before. I was just drawn to him in every way possible. Unfortunately, I realized early on that we were not that compatible in terms of our lifestyle and personalities. He's very independent and career oriented where as I am extremely clingy and family oriented. He had also just gotten out of a relationship so he was not consistent or ready for anything serious and because of that, he ended things with me so I wouldn't waste time on him. Fast forward a few weeks, I met guy#2. This guy is everything I was looking for in a man. He is consistent, caring, emotionally available, clingy (just like me), and extremely family oriented and ready for something serious. The downside was that I did not feel that initial "out of this world" chemistry with him that I felt with guy#1 even though guy#2 is compatible with me in every way and everything I'm looking for in a partner. Guy#2 and I still have great chemistry, just not magical like it was with guy#1. Fast forward a few more weeks, guy#2 and I are getting pretty serious now and guy#1 suddenly enters my life again wanting a second chance. Time has gone by and he is now "ready" for more commitment. Who do I pick? The guy I can't stop thinking about but not sure I can see long term with or the guy that I can envision a stable future with but don't have intense chemistry with?