I’m pregnant with this guys baby - he wants to keep it but I hear he’s abusive?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this guy for 3 months. That is it 3 months. I don’t know everyrhjng about him that I’d like too. Also from breaking the news that I’m breaking with him to a friend she knows his ex and apparently he used to beat up his ex girlfriend and I’ve seen photos now. I’m 20 coming 21, he is 25 coming 26. I always said 25/26 is the age I think is perfect for having a child, maybe even 24. But I’m 20 and of course emotionally I want the child but logically I don’t think I can afford it? I make less than 1k a month, he is homeless got kicked out by his mom and lives in a van right now and just drives around selling drugs trying to make a living and money. He has no bank card he has to give me cash for everything and he’s saying he really wants this baby? He’s saying I need to sort out where we would live though since he can’t due to his lifestyle. Is it unfair to bring a child up in the world in this situation and circumstances? I do emotionally want the child but LOGICALLY, my mom said I’d be kicked out and he’s already homeless as he apatently abused his mom. I’m only 7 weeks so I’m not really showing symptoms or being sick but if I was I don’t know if he’d be there for me. He said he’d wanna move in with me but again, I see abusive sides and I don’t think this is fair on the child or me too. But he’s so happy about it? I feel horrible leaving him and maybe not having the child? But he is homeless, I would be homeless if i keep the child and there is no where to go. Unless I apply for housing which can take up to months to find where to live. I’m not even his girlfriend he hasn’t asked yet?

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And before anyone Says I should have used protection I did I was on the pill but because I was so sick it did NOT work

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Well, I'm not going to advise you to get an abortion or not, that's up to you and your doctor, however, I do see that you've really chose a horrible partner. Seriously, do you really see a future with a drug dealer that lives out of his van? Do you want to bring up a child in this environment, especially since your mom has already expressed her opinion on the matter to kick you out? There's baby safe haven if you're of the United States, but that's still having to give up your child. You've really made a bad bed here.

[Guy13]

keeping the baby is what is important. Premeditated murder of a defenseless child is wrong.

[fonduegirl]

Do you want to keep the baby? If not either abort it or give it up for adoption

[fonduegirl]

It's dumb to have the "he'll change once the baby arrives" logic

[fonduegirl]

You shouldn't have had sex while you were sick

[fonduegirl]

Break up with him before things get bad

[Asker]

That’s the logic I think I’m having. No I don’t want to raise my baby around someone like him. I’d hate my child to go through something like that, I emotionally want a baby but logically i have no option as I’d be homeless and have no money and no where to go

[fonduegirl]

Then my best bet is giving it up. Adoption helps.

[TheFlak38]

Just another woman with the dumbest instincts doing some alpha fucks and now looking for her beta bucks. More proof that women love to be abused.

[magiusX26]

if you dont "know everything about you would like to know" then why did you get pregnant by him?