Dear Guys,
Are you an exceptionally hot to terribly ugly male who has a human female girl/woman in your life that you want to date/hook up with/marry and become the love of your lives and yet, you constantly find that she refers to you as "friend," "just cute," "who, that guy?" "my buddy," or makes statements in front of all her friends like, "oh him, (laughs) no we're not dating, he's like my little brother (laughs again even harder)."
You MY FRIEND are in the friendzone. Yup. You're in that purgatory realm of your relationship with this girl/woman in which she does not see you as any sort of anything outside of a platonic friendship. Yet, here you still are, wondering, watching, waiting, assuming she will pick up on your not so subtle hints to her that you're interested like that one time you brushed her hair back in the moonlight or laughed at a joke of hers that wasn't funny or jumped in front of her when a dog lunged at her...and yet, you...are...still...her...friend!
What gives? You're a guy planted firmly in her life, you're nice enough, you have a job, your own place, you're somewhat funny, and presumably you aren't a serial killer, so why aren't you enough? Well, this is where the tough love comes in because you aren't enough...for her. If you were enough, she'd be dating you and reciprocating on your not so subtle hints, but she can't see you save for your undying unwavering friendship because that's all she has ever wanted from you, is a friend.
The problem in this scenario is you. For whatever reason, you refuse to accept your place in her life when she has made it clear. You think because you simply exist in her stratosphere, she will fall for you. You constantly list all your qualities like you're applying for a job and stress how perfect you are to her, to her friends, to your friends, but that's not enough. She doesn't want you and it hurts. It will always hurt when someone you want doesn't want you back, but sticking around for months, years even, trying to make it happen, trying to force feelings will only end in your heart break.
The thing to realize is, YOU. ARE. ENOUGH....for someone else. You're better than enough. You're spending all this time trying to get someone who doesn't even see what's right in front of them to like or love you, when you could be doing that with someone who does. That's not her fault that she doesn't like you, but it is your fault if you stick around and get mad at her for not having feelings for you.
If you want to be a friend, be there for your friend but fulfill your hearts desires with someone who DOES want to be with you. You deserve that in your life. And that original girl who friendzones you, deserves a good friend if that's what you want to be, not someone who is bitter and angry about something that she never asked for or desired from you in the first place.
