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I've been in a relationship with this girl, Amy, for the last 3 years, a month ago we moved in together, we love each other.
A week ago, i wanted to surprise her, so i took a flight to her hometown to buy the salt candies she used to eat when she used to live with her parents cause it reminded of her childhood, after that, i bought some flowers and took her to a movie and cooked a meal for her.
Everything was going great, but when i gave her the salt candies, she started crying, telling me "she doesn't deserve me"
Then she told me she kissed her ex in her office 2 days ago.
I died inside that day, i ran away from what it used to be our home.
She kept calling, texting, showing up at places where I'm staying, asking me to let her explain herself. Her explanation was that she made a mistake, she used to love him, but she loves me now. A part of me wants to trust her, but how can i?
It's been 10 days, i wanted to marry her, but now I don't even want to see her. I don't have any friends, maybe that's why I'm here.

I know a few perfectionists, and they're great. My best friend is actually a perfectionist. We're friends because even though he's a perfectionist and I can drive him crazy (and he can drive me crazy), we both respect each other and hold ourselves to the same standards that we hold everyone else.

Now to the main event, do you know any perfectionists who don't hold themsleves to the same standards?

I've known a few, and we've never been able to stay in contact for long. With the most recent episode of a friend like that, I pretty quickly noticed that he quite often pointed out flaws or mistakes made by others (even if not verbally) and rarely (if ever) noticed his own flaws. But he was a self-proclaimed perfectionist.

At first I thought "maybe he's hyperfocused and that's why he can't keep track of himself sometimes" and then I thought "no, maybe he's just lazy or doesn't actually care?" And then I realized. He wasn't a "perfectionist," he just thought he was perfect. Basically, he was a narcissist.

Would you agree that perfectionists who don't hold themselves to the same standards are narcissists?