My boyfriend makes some comments I find uncomfortable over my friends?

[Anonymous]

So I have a lovely boyfriend that I’ve been dating for a year now. We are long distance and comes every month once or twice to see me. Since he lives with his parents it’s quite hard for me to go there constantly but I live alone so it’s just better.

I’m his first long term girlfriend, (I have been cheated on before with an ex friend by the way not by this boyfriend but in the past) once he came he met my friends and one of them likes going to the gym and he does too he was asking her, her routine and she just said she casually does some here and there and then he responded “I can send you a personalised workout routine” the conversation was bit flirty and I came back extremely upset and he realised it and apologised to me a lot. He does try to set these friends up with his but they live in a different city.

Recently he got into poker and I don’t want to learn cos I have quite an addictive personality so later he asks me if my friends want to learn. I responded vaguely saying no no I don’t and he responds your friends ask them, I said they don’t play and he’s like well neither did I, it helps learn math (he’s great at math)

Overall he’s really amazing as a boyfriend by the way

Am I just being insecure or are these comments genuinely sounding weird?

[Summeroflove]

I think that your gut feeling does matter ir also depends on his intentions if he’s just being friendly and ir came off the wrong way or if he was flirting.

I think your feelings are valid and everyone has insecurities it just comes down to are people able to communicate them with one another, or are they going to come out in ways that are wrong. Ways that include making the other person jealous, getting overly jealous, and the list goes on. That’s what can end up happening when people don’t communicate.

You need to just talk to him how you feel and being all of this up not in a argumentative way and also just listen to him.

I know and I’m not saying this is what he’s doing. Some people get it in their heads and become insecure that their partner is going to cheat or breakup or whatever. So they intentionally flirt with someone else in a effort to make the other person jealous like “oh look what I can get if you loose me”, but all that does is end the relationship a lot faster. Then if someone could communicate feelings.

Another problem is though some people do try to communicate feelings like a adult and it gets shut down by the other person. Again not healthy.

[MasterKS]

too much thinking in these small actions!

[Asker]

We had a convo and yep you’re 10000% right

[MasterKS]

@asker take it easy!