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I just had another woman lie to me about wanting to meet up for a date but kept making excuses at the last second to bail. This went on for a few weeks.

But she kept texting me to chat. And we texted a lot. It was clean chat too and not sexting.

I was patient at first but finally after three weeks I said “I need to know if we are going to meet up or not” (politely). She said she definitely wanted to meet up and then when I said “okay can you let me know a good time” and she went silent. She only said “happy 4th” and I said happy 4th back but then I deleted her number. Haven’t heard from her sense.

Anyway she just wanted virtual/text attention for validation despite telling me in the beginning she would be interested in friends with benefits. Yes I met her on dating app but we were both verified and she was local. I am a bit older so I was patient at first. But it turned out to be a huge waste of time and she had to lie about wanting to meet up just because she didn’t want me to stop texting her.

But this crap happens a lot to guys nowadays. Just curious if women have any lingering guilt/regrets about doing this to them later. I doubt they do tbh.

Me (26) and my girl (25) been together over 6 years, first year we were together she cheated on me very cold heartedly. On New Years I was supposed to work the day after so I couldn't make it but my boss let me off last minute so I surprised her at the bar she was going to with her "friends" caught her rubbing her ass on a guy, beat the shit out of him & got kicked out & wait outside the bar 4 hours til it closed and she walked past me with him and went home with him, I went to her house to grab my shit and he answered her door in just underwear. Traumatic af. Day after she came to my house to apologize and for me to break up w/ her and while she was crying in my washroom I went through her phone (she'd cheated on me multiple times with multiple people & fucked him before I beat him up in his hotel room & also secretly had a STI, I tested and didn't have it). Broke up & I hated her for months. Got back together via seeing her at a bar and hooking up, I stated no guy friends, no going out past 1, no hotels w/out me. Years have past and things have been smooth & live together, she's in Law school now & ever since she got in Law school she has forgotten all my boundaries. She's going out to parties and friends houses until 5am, she went on a school trip to a big hotel (majority of the students in her class didn't go too) for over a week (wouldn't text me until the noon after every day) & she has a Mexican girls trip now planned for this summer. I don't want to control her, I feel silly enough and honestly our past haunts me & she knows this because I've made it extremely clear but I don't trust her in those situations and personally I feel like it's avoidable to stay out every weekend until 4-5am & I would be down to go on trips with her too. Is it fair boundaries that If she can't change her current habits of hers I've mentioned given out past or is that unfair?

I have only ghosted one person once in my entire life. I only dated her for a few weeks but she was looking for a “savior”. She called out of nowhere to visit her when she was on suicide watch due to an incident with her ex boyfriend. I showed up and gave optimistic support but when I drove back home I felt myself getting really pissed off. She was looking for a “nice guy safety net” and I wanted to nothing to do with that bullshit.

It was back in my 20s. But in retrospect I could of just texted her why I didn’t want to date her anymore vs just blowing her off.