Girls, Do women ever have regrets for wasting a man’s time just because they like the attention (but don’t want to date him)?

[Anonymous]

I just had another woman lie to me about wanting to meet up for a date but kept making excuses at the last second to bail. This went on for a few weeks.

But she kept texting me to chat. And we texted a lot. It was clean chat too and not sexting.

I was patient at first but finally after three weeks I said “I need to know if we are going to meet up or not” (politely). She said she definitely wanted to meet up and then when I said “okay can you let me know a good time” and she went silent. She only said “happy 4th” and I said happy 4th back but then I deleted her number. Haven’t heard from her sense.

Anyway she just wanted virtual/text attention for validation despite telling me in the beginning she would be interested in friends with benefits. Yes I met her on dating app but we were both verified and she was local. I am a bit older so I was patient at first. But it turned out to be a huge waste of time and she had to lie about wanting to meet up just because she didn’t want me to stop texting her.

But this crap happens a lot to guys nowadays. Just curious if women have any lingering guilt/regrets about doing this to them later. I doubt they do tbh.

No it’s on the man to read a woman’s mind and not expect her to flat out tell him the truth

I’ve done this to guys and I regret it

I only do this AFTER I (verbally) made it clear I wasn’t interested. Again I was straight up but I liked his persistence even though I would never date him

[Anonymous]

No. I don’t give a fuck. Men don’t feel bad when they manipulate and lie to try to get into womens pants so why the fuck would I feel bad for not wanting to meet up with some dude on the internet looking for sex. He probably deserves having his time wasted.

[Asker]

So you are getting revenge on what an unrelated guy did to you in the past by taking advantage of someone else. I see.

Two wrongs make a right I guess. Gotcha.

[Nikki1989]

Not our problem if you are too immature for a simple friendship. You don't deserve anything, you have to earn it first. You obviously failed.

[Asker]

A “simple friendship”. Ah I was straight up from the start. She wasn’t. She lied so she could keep my attention. I never lied about anything. But “it’s on the man” to figure out if she’s being dishonest, right?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You probably gave her the ick and she was too nice to tell you she lost interest

[Asker]

I never mentioned anything creepy or inappropriate.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The ick is not limited to sexual harassment. When someone gets an ick it means they lose attraction to you over something petty

[Asker]

Well thank you for acknowledging it was “petty l But I think she was dishonest from the start and/or was hoping I would say some sort of “magic words” to convince her or something.

Anyway I didn’t do anything wrong. I was honest but she wasn’t. I kept my guard up. But it’s disappointing even depressing so many women are like this nowadays. Depressing it is such a zero sum game. Truth I know how to manipulate but I don’t like doing that. But when I’m honest then I am the one who ends up getting manipulated.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Whatever works, man