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@LaFemmeFatale_1 asked me something about my love life earlier… and it actually stuck with me and made me think…

I’ve known someone for a long time. He’s intelligent, funny, has depth… but opening up has always been a slower process for him. It’s something that unfolds over time…. Like a really long time. We started out as just friends and then we decided to try something more…

And then there’s someone I met more recently…

We could barely communicate at first because of the language barrier lol, but somehow we kept gravitating back to each other… laughing, losing track of what we were doing like it just flowed naturally. I actually posted about him some months ago and you guys were sharing with me how you’ve dated someone who spoke another language primarily.

What stood out to me though… was the effort. And even emotionally… he didn’t rush it, but he didn’t avoid it either.

He told me:

“De nada, con gusto… es bueno saber un poco y te diré poco a poco.” (I’ll tell you more little by little.) …And he did.

He’s also the guy I was talking about when I posted about going on a date.. and asking you guys whats a good first date… anyway..

That made me question something… because I feel like we tend to assume history means more.

But what if someone new is showing you more intention?

So what matters more to you in the end?

I like to dance SO much. Others like to include me in parties with dancing bc they know I'll get people out of their seats to dance even just a little (including older people who look like they would enjoy it and younger people who tend to be a little awkward about asking for a dance). No matter what, I always end up with my long-time friends and we pull each other into a dance circle as if we're still college kids. We all have a great deal of fun by the end of the evening.

I particularly take care to make sure everyone is able to get a dance in bc frankly finances and lives change so suddenly that you never really know if this is your last chance to see someone or to dance and laugh and share a meal with them.

Others seem to just "politely have one dance" then sit around the rest of the event, sometimes even in silence.

Which type are you?