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My 2nd Date - Update

2nd Date Update: The Cake, The German "Freak," and some Dark Humour... Warning: Some dark, sensitive historical jokes ahead. We both have a very dark sense of humor, so hope it won’t offend anyone here!

So we had our second dinner and it was delicious. He was such a gentleman—he actually brought me a vanilla cake he baked himself the day before because I told him on our first date I wanted to try something made by him. 🥹

We talked about the usual stuff at first—life as foreigners, accents, daily fun things—but then we got more comfortable. He held my hand and told me mine are so little (I'm 158cm, he's 190cm+ 😏). Then he showed me his scars... 😏😏 We were at one of those DIY restaurants, so he did all the cooking for me.

I asked about his past relationships and why they ended. He has really strong boundaries—he likes independent women who have their own lives and don’t get emotionally dependent too fast. Apparently, he’s had exes try to move in or even move countries for him without him asking. He said some were too "dreamy" and not practical. Honestly, I like that... it fits my vibe. He didn’t ask much about mine, though he joked about my Chinese ex being "smooth on the body" when he heard I had one.

The humor is where it gets interesting. He’s got a very funny, dark sense of humor, same as me. I think I finally met someone I’m not afraid to "freak out" because behind that traditional gentleman exterior, he’s definitely the freakier one. We joked about his German grandpa again and he offered to buy me a Jewish dress for a third date so we could role-play together with his Grandpa’s outfit… I know it’s dark, judge me all you want, but I had a good laugh.

When I asked about his fetishes, he said he’d rather go slow "for the sake of my mental health" so I can uncover his fantasies slowly. When I teased him for being a freak, he just said, “You’re dating a German man.”

Then there's the "body" stuff. He complimented my dress (I love wearing heels and dresses on dates). I showed him a photo of me in a museum looking very sexy in high heels, but then I got worried he’d think I’m too sexy, and not "family-oriented" since I actually want something serious... my personality just leaks through sometimes!

While holding my hand and touching my leg, he kept touching my belly. He said, “Don’t know about foot fetish, but I have a belly fetish. Not sexual or anything, just love touching your belly randomly. Makes me feel so good.” He said that’s why he brought the cake—he doesn't want me to lose weight! (I gained 3kg during holidays feasting with family, so I’m 51kg now instead of my usual 47kg). He just teased me: “I like you strong like this!” 😁

He even joked about sending me his size 45 feet photos 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I told him my fetishes are a secret for now.

We got deeper too—he told me about his strained relationship with his dad, and I told him my dad and I are best friends. He told me about his family, his mother and his close relationship with her.
He kept giving me "the look"—smiling at my eyes and lips. I told him I accidentally bit my lip badly the other day and he said, “Aww, you got your lips hurt and I’ve done nothing to you yet.” 🤣

He practiced my language to compliment me, which was so cute, but then he stopped. He said, “It’s enough for today because I need to lure you to the third date… I’ll bait you with this. You’ll hear me say that only when you meet me again.”

He called me “Little lady” again, hugged me, and kissed my forehead at the end. I’m a great kisser and I've kissed guys of a few nationalities, but it’s the first time I don’t feel like hurrying. I actually enjoy that he’s slow and makes me wait. My best kiss was a German guy back in 2023... so I'm definitely looking forward to this.

For the first date story - Check this question out - Do guys really find sparkly, shiny eyes on a girl attractive?

My 2nd Date - Update
My 2nd Date - Update
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