Is it okay to try my luck 2nd time?

Question

I have a crush on my coworker who works in the same room as me. We've known each other for 9 months, and I developed a crush on her about 2-3 months ago. About a month ago, I told her I liked her. Well, she rejected me because she has another guy and wanted to remain friends. However, at work, she is still teasing me and kind of flirting with me—like asking me to do something very casual or simple for her, and even making jokes toward me in serious situations. Also, in the evenings, she usually sends me reels and starts conversations (which mostly end up lasting until 2-4 a. m.). I may be overthinking this, but where in the world does someone have a guy/girl chat with her coworker (friend) until late at night almost every day?

Lately, I've been thinking that I should try once again (there won't be a 3rd time), but this time I want to approach her traditionally—like caring for her at work without pressure, asking her out on a date, and trying to have more quality time outside of work. It may be uncomfortable for her because other coworkers would notice it (however, almost everyone at work thinks we are dating or something more than friends). I guess it's the only time that I should try, because I am leaving my job within a month, and after that, there won't be as much of a chance since we won't be in the same office anymore.

Sorry for all the bullshit mentioned above. Is it okay to try a 2nd time (in a traditional way, as if we were not coworkers or something)?

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I personally would not give it a second shot for a number of reasons.

1. You never start anything romantic with a coworker. Way too many risks of different kinds, such as jealousy or preferred treatment. Also, your employer pays you to work during work hours and not to be unproductive.

2. She said no the first time. What makes you so sure that despite her seemingly flirty behavior, she is not going to reject you a second time?

3. Since you are leaving your job in one month, what is the purpose of even wanting to date someone you might never even see again?

Abbycado · Accepted Answer

No, she made it clear her feelings or lack thereof. You shouldn’t date coworkers anyway.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

No you should not. She already told you she has a man. She plays with you and likes sharing stuff with you as a friend, and even if she does like you more than just a friend, you should not entertain that.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

You should wait until you don't work with her anymore and she breaks up with her guy, smart guy

Anon_girl1 · Answer

coming from someone on the opposite end of this, he won’t make a move but at the same time shows interest, i’m very confused. she may not know how u feel, tell her, tell her before it’s really too late. it doesn’t even need to be all out there. just send her a reel, then a message, then suggest hanging out outside of working grabbing a drink? i WISH he would do that for me…