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Can narcissistic abuse affect you even if the connection only lasted three weeks? Is it normal to still feel impacted by how someone treated you?

I experienced every stage of narcissistic abuse with him — the idealization (studying me, learning my trauma, saying all the right things), the devaluation (disrespect, throwing my vulnerabilities back in my face), and the discard (ghosting me and acting like I never existed). This wasn’t a normal “we talked and it didn’t work out” situation. It was deeply damaging. My mistake was being open about my mental and emotional wellbeing from the start, and he still chose to proceed anyway.

Or is this a normal dating thing? I’m so curious to know

i've been thinking about this question lowkeyly since shortly after trump was reelected, since that's when i really noticed the manosphere & the heritage foundation's agendy and all the other 'good' stuff. i feel like at this point most guys my age are at least somewhat contaminated with manosphere or alt right talking points (i even personally know guys that are kneck deep into that shit) which is really scary to think about. it's pretty concerning namely because i definitely don't want to risk accidently dating or worse, marrying & having kids, with a genuine misogynist who worships fresh&fit and nick fuentes. especially if you factor in potential rolling back of no fault divorce, birth control, etc. a lot of those dudes pretend to be normal or downplay what they are, so it's often hard to know, especially in the beginning. even if you get with a normal dude, there's a big risk his algorithm eventually ends up brainwashing him. even if these guys don't end up on the farther end of the spectrum, they still end up with ideas and attitudes about women that feel remniscent of the 80s, and that's pretty terrible already.

now about the question, i know that this touches every age bracket but it's heavily concentrated on gen z dudes and younger. i'm in my mid twenties (the age of my profile is muchhh older, thought it was slightly funny when i created my account years ago) for reference. i'm really most attracted to guys my age, never been that much of a daddy appreciator or anything, but i think it could maybe be more wise potentially? to date older at this point. i feel like millenials are much less contaminated by this type of stuff, or am i wrong? (atm that refers to 30-40yos). could maybe consider younger gen x (like 45-50something yos), though i'm typically not very physically attracted to men those ages and there's the risk that if they're willing to date a woman in her mid 20s it could mean bad things about their real beliefs and attitutes to women.

For more than 2 decades I have seen my parents on most days are on good terms but I’ll never forget those times where my mom has a heated argument with my Dad and he will listen to her instead of arguing back. Although it’s rare but still I really hate it when that happens and couldn’t help but wonder should I get into a relationship/marriage because i couldn’t handle the nasty part. I hate conflicts no matter what, I know it’s normal that’s why I want to avoid it at all costs. From now onwards I’m choosing to stay single to preserve my peace as I hate conflicts.