Are you afraid of getting married/in a romantic relationship? If so, why?

[Anonymous]

For more than 2 decades I have seen my parents on most days are on good terms but I’ll never forget those times where my mom has a heated argument with my Dad and he will listen to her instead of arguing back. Although it’s rare but still I really hate it when that happens and couldn’t help but wonder should I get into a relationship/marriage because i couldn’t handle the nasty part. I hate conflicts no matter what, I know it’s normal that’s why I want to avoid it at all costs. From now onwards I’m choosing to stay single to preserve my peace as I hate conflicts.

Yes thinking about it stresses me out

No it’s a wonderful thing

[aceleon]

because i know that i'm not cut out for that job.

because i hate 2 thing that is in it's core: expectations and responsibility.

someone having expectations fromme feels like an hard insult to me like i would be less furious if you just sweared to me.

and responsibility is the bane of my existance, i have no interest in them whatsoever.

and i really don't think i am a good choice, aside from being a ''pretty'' boy with the body to go by i really don't think i will be able to offer much who is desired nowadays, i'm extremely selfish and impatient and most of the time emotionally cold if i think you are being stupid and to me most of the time most people are total idiots who let's their emotions take over their actions in life which just dooms them for failure.

life is a battle and battles are suppose to fought with the head not with the heart and i really am not able to tolerate emotional reactions from people especially if they are being extremely illogical which is almost always the case.

are you afraid of my driving? why? because i am unresponsive physically and look like i'm not paying attention? i most certainly do what do you expect me to do? report every steps i will take to you like hey i'm about to turn to the left or iwill just give the car behind us path okay? sorry not happening, if you are inside my car you either trust me and just let it go or the station is there.

[Animalchick]

you're gonna have responsibilities now matter what you do its part of growing up you can't escape responsibilities unfortunately

[aceleon]

@Animalchick responsibilities that are necessary for my survival vs for keeping someone else pleased is entirely different things.
some responsiblities i can't avoid like the plague i believe they are unless i have a slow and painfull death wish.
responsiblity of a woman and the offsprings we will brought to this shit hole doesn't essential for me to survive or thrive, on the countrary it will impair my own chance of survival and definitely hinder my thriving aka living my best life since i have to waste the money i make on to shits (bills, rent, kitchen, the needs of the so and the brats etc etc) i don't care about instead of living like the king i want to be (before you start with you would pay at least half of those even if you are not married, no, if i don't get marry i have no reason to leave the house of my parents and get into the ABSOLUTLY UNNECESSARY trouble of trying to survive while i could just survive off of them while thrive with my own money, sorry but i don't believe adding troubles into your life where it is not necessary just to prove that you can do it on your own aka empty sentimentalities is growing up because to me it is an incredibly infantile sense of reason filled with emotional nonsense, i am a pragmatist, becoming completely independent is strategically stupid in so many sense especially under the name of ''GROWİNG UP'' nahh high pass, i rather live my days like a dependent kid WİTH HİS OWN İNCOME till i eventually collect enough money to consider myself rich SİNCE İ HAVE NO LİFE EXPENSES OTHER THAN HAVİNG FUN. no amount of sentimental ''ohh i am a grown up right i must stand on my own foot '' crap can replace using someone elses foots until i am able to sprout my wings strategy for me.

[ohsheeT]

One of the best things about being in a relationship is both understand EGOS and you dont bring them in to a relationship ship.. your dad is right he knows she's just venting. And it will pass.

He also knows if his EGO Starts talking back things are going to be said that dont need to be said

So we all need love to give it and receive it share it become one with the person we love.

And if something upsets someone talk about it but dont disrespect each other over it..

[SecretsofKB]

I wasn't afraid of relationships or marriage. Mostly afraid of not finding the right person.

Luckily, for me, I did have parents to set a good example for me of what a solid relationship should be like. That definitely helped take any fear or stress out for me.

[Asker]

That’s good but I’m not really sure if I can handle the disadvantages though…

[SecretsofKB]

I've met some people from divorced parents, and they have always told me they use their parent's relationships as a guide of what not to do. The use that to improve their own relationships. You might be able to do the same thing in your relationships.

[DishLady]

Afraid? No. But very unwilling to be hitched to another cheating, wife-beating deadbeat. I’d I see any sign of shady behavior I’m out.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach aiming to sprinkle some love magic amidst uncertainty, I get you! Avoiding relationships to dodge conflict is like giving up chocolate because it could melt. Sure, unwelcome drama happens, but it's all about balance. Love is a crazy adventure, and sometimes, even a rollercoaster. That doesn't mean you need to leap into it unprepared. Communicating openly and understanding each other makes conflicts manageable and even strengthens bonds. But, hey, if single life is your joyride, then own it! Your happiness, your ride! 😊

[AviatorTom]

No, I was married for 20+ years before an amicable divorce. I am now married again, we just celebrated our 9th anniversary.

Marriage is very good. You have a partner to share life experiences with, to help you make decisions. And intimacy is pretty good too.

[RavVid]

You have an example before you with your parents. One of them doesn't fight and remains rational. You would seem to take after your father. You could in fact find a man who doesn't like fights as you don't.

With one girlfriend we seldom had fights - it wasn't normal for us. With another, she was always provoking fights. Chose carefully :)

[CuriousMufuxka]

I've never been fearful of marriage, but more concerned. Guys really the bone if things don't work out. It's not like traditional ceremonies of many a century ago. That bond of love til death has become more of a monetary contract. There are far better options to celebrate love than signing papers.

[HighValue]

You must be a man then if you want to preserve your peace. MOST of the time, WOMEN are the problem in relationships. Women create problems, then blame men when they call them out on their bs.

All marriage is for is for women to abuse and steal form men. Good women would want an exclusive long term relationship WITHOUT legal marriage.

[MissSunshine2]

To me, I respect your choice, but I grew up in a harmonious family. It wasn’t perfect, nothing ever is, but it’s taught me that it’s okay and important to discuss things with potential partners.

[Anonymous]

At this point, yes. If she's still single at this age there's likely FAR MORE reasons NOT to marry her then to marry her. Add to that I have significantly more to lose. By choosing wrong then when I was younger. It's unfortunate, but it's also reality.

[sawno]

Modern marriage I don't like, but I'm eager to be in another relationship not afraid of it.
But, I take my relationships as serious as a marriage. So I only commit if I truly love her.

[cherrytreeblossom]

yeah, quite a bit. i'm not so old, yet! but i've heard some of my friends say that their grand parents have already asked them what they think of the boys in class ewwww

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It's normal isn't a bad thing lol. Conflict is how we grow as humans. What's scary is staying the same

[Nikki1989]

I was never afraid. Marriage has been a wonderful journey for us since we first planned it in 2009.

[Anonymous]

No. I very much want it, and I view as a very healthy development. However, I am terrified I could end up with wrong person. I need to feel a certain way about a girl.

[TonyMetal___86]

Yes i'm affraid but not because of this situation, it's because i can never know if the person truly loves me and if they can really keep their promises, also won't change with time!

[Twalli]

I love that I am in a relationship now. It's amazing. The idea of marriage is still a bit frightening, but I don't see myself marrying anyone else.

[DextroShade]

I am glad I already married a good woman because the dating scene is a shitshow because of feminism and hoeflation.

[LiamJHayden]

Marriage is not worth the risk for me, financially.

[Imjustagirl1520]

yeah i dont like them, im scared ill meet a man who manipulates me into a relationship

[Animalchick]

Just learn the difference between manipulating people and people who are real

[Imjustagirl1520]

Easier said than done. if that was the case nobody would be manipulated ever again.

[AgentG111]

Because humans are idiots and all women cheat!

[Animalchick]

That is not true not all women cheat!

[AgentG111]

@Animalchick okay.

[queenofcardio]

No.. I want to get married

[alice55]

No I really want to get married

[zagor]

Not afraid of it, just not going to do it.

[Bloodparadise]

I wish to marry the guy i truly love!