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Been dating a female for about 6 months… We went on 1 date & spent quality time with each other twice… I was approached by this female saying she liked me and wanted me for years once she found out i was no longer in a relationship… We texted everyday… The chemistry, charisma, & sexual tension was definitely there… She told me she was single when i asked about her ex fiancé who she was engaged to… she said for a year & 43 days which I’m assuming it was due to him being incarcerated… he is the father of 2 of her kids… She said they still had love for one another but they decided they were better off as best friends… when she got overwhelmed & overstimulated with personal issues she would push me away & shut me out for days at a time… Her distancing herself started to bother me so i communicated it to her which she said if we communicated things would work out between us so that’s what i did… she became angry at me… she said how she eventually wanted to be my girlfriend and had future plans with me in them… she said she could see herself falling in love with me because im a good person but then we had a disagreement because the distancing became more common than ever… so she said i was suffocating her because i didn’t believe anything she told me so we friend zoned one another… Then she kept texting me i told her to stop texting me… she texted me one day saying she missed me… So we were back in good graces… Then i planned something special for her because i knew she was going through some personal issues and i had Christmas gifts for her… So on Saturday we had sex after she seen her romantic gesture and gifts but that same day she said her baby father was coming home soon… she texted me Sunday thanking me for the best few hours she had in a long time & she kept admiring her flowers while smiling so hard… Then after that things got weird she only texts me in the mornings now… my assumption is he’s home…

before any of you jump the gun and claim that I'm a victim blamer I like to point out that I'm well aware that rape is a very traumatic experience. I myself am no stranger when it comes to trauma so I should know that like any other victims of trauma people who were unfortunate to endure rape often times do not want to REMEMBER such experience. so they...

- Dont want to think about it

- Avoid hearing anything that relates to it

- (most importantly) dont want to TALK about it

it might also explain why so many rape victims dont bother to report their incident. so with all that said I now have a 6th sense and that is to never believe women who I just met or dont know personally when they say they were victims of rape. to me if a woman does not hesistate to scream that "she was raped" from the top of a mountain without feeling any sort of trauma, anxiety, or shame then is obvious to me that she is lying or orchastrated the incident in her head.

she is most likely trying to avoid accountability by claiming that she was forced into it or simply trying to use this as a way to gaslight you once you start to feel the false sympathy for her that she wants you to feel.

till then this tweet explains it better than I do. I should also know cause a girl who I almost dated was a prime example of this. she claimed her ex raped her the night she lost her virginity but then her story started to sound like horseshit to me when we cut each other lose and she would shame me for being a virgin while she was not; like who the fuck would be happy to lose their virginity via rape?

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1. Thinking that her guy bestie hasn't or can't fvcked her. pic.twitter.com/Ga39Ms2UkR

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