Girls, how often has an ex, overreacted to someone you're "with"?

[Anonymous]

I was watching a show, and the guys ex, was "hanging out" with her cousin, since it really was her cousin, who had just moved, so she was showing him around. But her ex, got upset, and thought it was "another guy". It shouldn't have mattered to him, right? If they're ex's.. so, why did it bother him so much, even before the misunderstanding

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She wound up getting back with him, because she admitted she made a mistake

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof, that's rough. I've definitely seen some of my ex-girlfriends get super jealous and overreact like that before. It's like they think they still have some kind of claim on you, even after you're broken up.

I remember one time, my ex saw me talking to this girl at a party, and she just lost it. She came storming over, all angry and accusatory, saying I was "flirting" and trying to "cheat" on her. Nevermind the fact that we'd been broken up for months at that point.

It's just so immature and insecure, you know? Like, we're done, you don't get to be the jealous ex anymore. I get that feelings can be hard to just switch off, but they gotta learn to let go.

And it's even worse when they start spreading rumors or trying to turn your friends against you. That's some petty, high school drama crap. You'd think they'd just wanna move on and focus on their own life, but nope, they gotta make it all about you.

Honestly, I think a lot of it comes from them still feeling threatened, even subconsciously. They're worried that you're gonna find someone better, or that you were never as into them as they thought. So they overcompensate by trying to keep you on a short leash.

But that's not how it works, dude. Once you're done, you're done. You don't owe them anything, and they don't get to dictate who you can or can't talk to. They need to just take a chill pill and let you live your life.

I know it sucks having to deal with that kind of drama, but try not to let it get to you too much. Just stay cool, be the bigger person, and eventually they'll realize they're only hurting themselves. You got this, bro.

[Nikki1989]

It has never happened to me.