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So I’m new to dating apps and have gotten the impression of a few guys that girls don’t message first. I’m someone who can talk to anyone, so I have no issue sending a first message but all the guys that I have messaged all said the same thing that it was nice to contacted first. I would say men get rejected way more on dating apps than women so it does get draining constantly having to send the first message.

27F, I just feel like I had it harder than others. I haven’t been sexually or physically abused but I had my share of emotional abuse. I was bullied as a kid up to in HS, I was raised by my grandmother who is very petty/fits the “mean girl” description in the sense that she has a big mouth, gossiped about her kids/grandkids with her other kids/grandkids and is a bit of a narcissist. I never really had friends growing up and to go this far in life still without those close friendships and never had a long term relationship under my belt is just so odd. I know nothing is wrong with me but this trauma from my mother’s vindictive side of the family, bullying and just encountering my share of drama with people I’ve come across is unjust considering I’m a very peaceful person. I’m very unsociable and usually now expect people to make the first move to contact me, with current “friends”, family and if a guy actually wants to make a move (which never happens). I feel like people always say things about how everyone goes through a difficult time and we all have a cross to bear. But honestly, I have to disagree. It’s all about the cards your dealt with and life is a series of good and bad luck, some situations are in your control and others not so much. I didn’t ask to be born into my family, I would have been a different person maybe for the better if I wasn’t raised by my grandmother. I wouldn’t have had to go with my grandmother if my mom didn’t divorce my dad.

TL; DR; Does anyone get envious and also under the impression that most people just have life a lot easier and shit is just unfair?

If your date showed up in one of the above outfits, which would turn you off the most to the point that you walk out instantly after they introduce themselves? Base it off the gender/sex you’re romantically interested in. I ran out of poll room so i listed one girl and one guy choice per option. #FeelFreeToList #TheDateFromHell