So there's a guy friend of mine that I've known for a few months now. His behavior towards me has left me wondering if he's flirting with me or if he's being friendly. I'll sum up a timeline of what stood out to me: After we first met, I left an impression (over something silly) and my other friend told me that my guy friend would talk about me a lot. Next time we hang out in a group of people, this is the first time he hugs me. After that hug he followed me into the next room to ask what perfume I wear. He later called my friend to ask about the perfume and said he'd get it for a girl (he says I smell nice every time he sees me). The next time, he's more touchy. Like touching my arm, shoulder, back etc. And now he's hugging me every time he sees me. Alright, we hang out again and it goes from light touching to laying his head on my legs/lap and leaning on me. He's always sitting/standing next to me no matter where I move and gravitating to where I am (my friend pointed this out). We hung out yesterday nd he did all this again, with the touching etc. He also complimented me twice, saying I looked cute and the shirt I wore looked good on me. (He's complimented my nails and glasses before). He got my number yesterday, it was funny because he brought it up twice, the 1rst time he said he wanted to send me a meme and the 2nd time he said he wanted me to read a script for him, so I gave it to him. He also tried to get me to go to the store with him but it was late. (he's taken me to the store once before, which led to a friend saying that he doesn't normally do stuff like that for girls and treats me a bit different). When he was leaving, he didn't hug me in front of people, but when we got to our cars he hesitantly turned around hugged me. (A diff time he was in his car leaving, he saw me come outside, stopped and got out his car to run back and hug me). I'm not like "looking for signs", it's just all this behavior stood out to me.
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I made a typo in the title.. it's supposed to say "is the how guy friends act?"
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Is he attractive?
He's alright.. like a 6/10
Being friendly
Lol I wanna know, why does his attractiveness matter?
Because I have yet to run into a gag question asking if a guy is flirting and the girl says that he isn’t attractive.
Gag question? I'm asking a real question. And you're assuming that the girl (in this case me) is attracted to him. When I'm honestly asking a question because like I said, I've never had a platonic guy friend act like this at all. Never.
You are asking a real question on gag. Yes I assumed and that’s why I asked if you were attracted to him and you confirmed that you are
You didn't ask "if I was attracted to him"... you asked "if he's attractive" to which is said "he's alright" and rated him 6/10... where did I say I'm attracted to him dude? I just answered you're question. And you jumped to conclusions out of spite
You DO know people can be attractive without you being attracted to them right?
No spite at all. I am trying to be helpful. You have asked 9 questions on gag about your guy friends and their actions. We’re all those questions about dif guys or only a few?
If I believe someone looks attractive then I would be attracted to them
It's the same guy. I keep asking because it's really throwing me off. My other guy friends don't touch me or compliment me or constantly talk about sex (which I didn't mention here, but he showed me his nudes yesterday that he was proud of) but the only guy friends that did this ended up being attracted me which led to a lot of issues, and I don't want to approach him about it if I'm just over analyzing because then I'll look crazy... Oh and when u said "gag" I didn't realize you were abbreviating the website. I thought u meant a gag as in a joke question.
I don't know I've seen attractive men but they're weren't"my type" so I wouldn't find myself attracted to them, but I can appreciate how others might see them
Friends share nudes, what prompted him sharing. Did you share your nudes too?
Oh I’m not big on having a ‘type’
Ok I call him my friend but we should use that term loosely. We've hung out a few times with other people but never truly alone, and he just got my number yesterday (the same day he showed me nudes). We don't really have an established relationship where we're close enough for him to show me his nudes (I don't even know his last name). If I knew him for awhile I wouldn't think it's odd, but considering how we're really not super close it's weird.
I get that, I'm just rather picky tbh
Well you said that it’s bugging you. Might as well ask him out and then you will know. You have been waiting for 2 months at least, why not try? I mean obv if you are in a relationship then ask him why he’s sending you nudes.
Wait what? I'm not in a relationship, I was saying our relationship isn't close enough to show nudes. And I don't really want to ask him out? I was just trying to see if this type of behavior is normal for guy friends
Not normal
You are single but if he asks you out you will reject him because you are very picky. He isn’t your friend. So why is he bugging you and why haven’t you taken action?
Ok so the conclusion I'm coming to is this inst normal then. I doubt he'd ask me out because of who we met through (it'd be weird). Which might be way he acts this way due to the 'tension' of feeling like he has to hide his actions? Because like I said, he just won't say/do certain things around certain people, versus when we're alone. To me it seems like when a kid has a crush on someone but is trying to hide it. (Because why walk out without hugging me, then hug me when we're alone? Why bring up sexual topics when we're alone? And he doesn't hold back on that. But he's never said anything super sexual to me in front of anyone). I also wouldn't call it "bugging me", and I don't want to take action because I wasn't sure if I was over analyzing it
You said it’s really throwing you off. It will continue to be a mystery then and you will continue to be thrown off. When we don’t take any action nothing changes. Who knows why he is acting like he does, no one is a mind reader. My advise is to risk embarrassment and have a one on one conversation with him. But sounds like with no action this will lead to future questions. Gl
I can't argue with that, taking action is something I need to apply in other areas of my life too. But overall you did help me understand it a bit more. So thank you
You are welcome. Happy to help if you have any other questions