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@LaFemmeFatale_1 asked me something about my love life earlier… and it actually stuck with me and made me think…

I’ve known someone for a long time. He’s intelligent, funny, has depth… but opening up has always been a slower process for him. It’s something that unfolds over time…. Like a really long time. We started out as just friends and then we decided to try something more…

And then there’s someone I met more recently…

We could barely communicate at first because of the language barrier lol, but somehow we kept gravitating back to each other… laughing, losing track of what we were doing like it just flowed naturally. I actually posted about him some months ago and you guys were sharing with me how you’ve dated someone who spoke another language primarily.

What stood out to me though… was the effort. And even emotionally… he didn’t rush it, but he didn’t avoid it either.

He told me:

“De nada, con gusto… es bueno saber un poco y te diré poco a poco.” (I’ll tell you more little by little.) …And he did.

He’s also the guy I was talking about when I posted about going on a date.. and asking you guys whats a good first date… anyway..

That made me question something… because I feel like we tend to assume history means more.

But what if someone new is showing you more intention?

So what matters more to you in the end?

To me, Taylor Swift writes the way a teen with many exes writes in her diary or types in her text messages. When she misses an ex, she writes in a diary-teen style. When she’s angry at an ex, she vents. Her lines are so primitive and conversational that they feel like they were taken directly from texts she sent to a friend.

She uses the average person’s vocabulary, not to mention the cursing and swearing, which cheapens her lines even more. And one more thing: imagine writing about your exes while dating a new guy. How would she show her song to her boyfriend? “Honey, I just wrote a song about my ex.” “Which one?” “Well, I wrote several songs about my recent exes, but this one is about [she mentions the name].” “Wow, so well written! I love the part where you said how much you miss him.”