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Let's call my ex boyfriend for LUKE

Yesterday me and my best friend were texting about work and she suddenly texten this👇, but I tried to play it cool=

She= By the way, would it be okay if I come in contacted with Luke again? I don't want to do it behind your back, that's why I'm asking☺️

Me= As friends or a date?

She= Friends

Me= I was going to say that no matter what, you don't need my permission for that. Sure it's uncomfortable, to be honest, but I would never stop someone from being friends or anything with someone.

She= No, I know that! But I still wanted to ask you because I didn't want to go behind your back, you're still my best friend❤️

Me= That's my honest answer. Well thought out, that's my honest answer anyway.

She= And if you had said no, I wouldn't have contacted him

Me= Cute, but it's okay

She= Okay, good to know❤️
Me= yes

Story = so in 2023 me and this guy Luke dated from May- August, but broke up because he says he had issues with his family and work and is so stressed and can't jungle everything rn or give me the kind of man I want rn. So I thought that I should not be a burden and just accept his excuse and break up. During the first week we were dating , I had asked my friends if they knew him. my best friend sayd she knows him and that they had a small crush on each other when they were teenagers and he had kissed her on the cheek and run. I felt uncomfortable and even tho I had began to like Luke a lot, I was ready to end it, but then my best friend sayd that I don't need to end it because they don't have feelings for each other and that I should not let it come between me and love. So I trusted her words, but still felt uncomfortable and wanted to hear Luke's side of the story too if he likes her or if they were together of something long ago. He sayd no and a assured me that it was just a small crush back then and he doesn't feel anything for her. So I trusted him and felt less ucomfortable.

God I was blind...

Long story short, not to criticize, I'm just giving a description of how she looks and her health. Details: She has always taken jabs at me on the job for being fit. She'll ask me intrusive questions like," Are you still losing weight? What size are you now? You don't need to lose any more weight." I've never asked her for her opinion. Yet she's overweight, feet/legs/arms swollen, high blood pressure , on multiple medications, has glaucoma, can't drive. I've never once brought up how unhealthy she is despite knowing her circumstances. Now her husband has died because, like her, he didn't take care of himself.

Her mother is just as overweight with the same health issues, including heart failure, yet her mother said ," omg you're getting too skinny!" I told the mom, " I'm healthy and not on multiple medications , don't have heart failure, and swollen ankles like you. Are you feeling okay?" She then said oh um well did I say something wrong? "I said," Oh no, you didn't bother me. I'm just saying. Now they're trying to be all nice to me, but I'm keeping my distance. This is a work setting, by the way.