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There's this one lady I dated over 2 years ago for about a month and a half. We went on 6 dates, then she decided that she didn't feel the magic with me and just wanted to be friends. Fast forward to today, we've remained friends and had a healthy friendship. She's dated a few other guys, and even had one other time she dumped one other guy for the same reason she did with me. Some other relationships she had didn't turn out well though to say the least. She has some cryptic things to me, like how I told her I'm going to Hawaii next year for my friends wedding and then she told me she wants to go with me. Not to the wedding itself, just to Hawaii. I think it'd be awkward if either of us are dating someone else at the time and she came with me. She also told me once if she was to date a friend, it'd be me. I believe she is a very honest person, and if she wanted to be with me again, she'd say so, but I'm not sure for certain. I'm not sure if I really want her back though. I respect her, sure, and I wasn't considering breaking up at the time, but I've also dated, albeit one date each, a few different women and had feelings for 2 other women since then. But unlike 3 of those women that I briefly dated, she didn't do anything to hurt me. She's proven she does care about me, and did try to help me with one of the women I had feelings for. (I learned without directly asking that one of those women was engaged, so that's not happening). Opinions and feelings can change, and for all I know, she doesn't regret breaking up with me, but I could be wrong. Some other people I talked to about it believe she made a mistake dumping me, but I never told her that. What do you think, if she does want to date me again, should I do it?

Is it guys or girls that more often break things off?

Its a very tough topic to talk about but I (26 M) sometimes do experience sexual harassment.

!! Before going further I do acknowledge that girls experience this from men as well and I do not want to deny this, I merely want to open up the conversation that it can go both ways!!

But when I talk about it with my friends they usually laugh it off because I'm a guy and specially female friends are like yeah I really doubt its close to what I'm experiencing.

Now with small stuff I'm not too bothered, like a girl when shouts like take me home with you when I'm out is kinda funny and easy to brush off. Although there are things that go too far. One example is that when I arrive at a gym I have girls staring at me and aggressively trying to take a peek when I'm changing clothes (it has subsides since I go there once or twice a day now and I'm quite a regular). This stuff does creep me out.

Also sometimes when I walk in jogging pants or something loose some girl will randomly grab my ass. This only happened twice in the last year but this really does cross a line.

The worst part is though that there is no right way to respond as a guy, if I get angry at her people will think im being aggressive to a helpless woman, and if I tell the truth people just stare in disbelief because I'm a man.

Now I will be honest that it's not the scariest thing to me since I don't go to clubs and I only drink water so getting something slipped in my drink is nearly impossible. I'm also physically stronger then 99% of other people I meet (men and women). But I worry since I have a girlfriend and we are extreemly prude with these things.

I wanted to ask for guys, have you ever experienced this and how do you deal with this? And for girls do you think this happens to guys and have you done it in the past?

And more importantly how to open up this conversation?