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I just got back from reddit, reading about both the wife's and husband's versions.

The wife's version:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/xu9wga/i_feel_my_husband_m_40_is_likely_cheating_now_and/

She cheated with the guy's best friend when she was a 19 year-old college freshman. They were boyfriend and girlfriend and he catches them in his own house. He literally walked in on them. She gets forgiven and years later the guy still marries her.

The husband's version:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/xwvpg0/i_cheated_on_my_wife_and_im_nervous_dont_know_how/

He cheats 20 years later (the guy is now 40 years old) when they already have 3 kids (their oldest child is 14 years old) and been married for 15 years. His cheating is unrelated to her cheating. He cheats because he's having a mid-life crisis and wanted to see what it was like being with another woman. He cheated with his co-worker, ended up loving the other woman but finds out she was using him for money. During the time he was cheating he would be drunk in front of their kids.

Which cheating is worse to you, cheating as a 19 year-old girlfriend and getting caught with the guy's friend or cheating as a 40 year-old man married with 3 kids and coming home drunk?

Just like the saying ''once a cheater, always a cheater'', does the same applies to bullies? They never sincerely change don't they? I'll tell you a brief real experience.

In both 7th and 8th grade, I used to get obstracized by classmates and picked on for being somewhat overweight, wearing glasses and had facial acne issues. In other words, I was the ugly girl at school. My emotional/verbal bully (lets call him James) made my school years miserable, humiliating in front of the class many times. Every day after school, I felt horrible about myself.

Over the years I've worked on myself and grew out of the ugly duckling stage. Just 3 months ago, I get a Fb message and invitation from none other than James. He started complimenting on my change and how he's sorry for before. I wasn't convinced but wanted to test him if he had really changed. I let him pay all the dates. On the 4th date, something was funny to him. I asked him what it was and he secretly pointed out to an elder woman (she was apparently suffering from obesity issue and spots in her face) that was having a hard time sitting on a bench alone. That's when he told me ''Look at her, she looks like Porky's girlfriend, see those legs and she looks like a melted cheese. LMAO''. He excused that since it's in private and he's only saying it to me, it's no big deal.

I got upset and told him that was he was same superficial jerk from our school years, the same 13-14 year-old bully that all he cares is about appearances and not a person's values, left and blocked him. We're now 24 year-olds already. He hasn't changed. Are bullies generally like that?