My fiancé left me on our wedding day he was a cheater I haven't been out of my house anymore I cannot face people.. I feel ashamed what should I do?

[Anonymous]

It has been seven months

[MrOracle]

I understand how you feel, but the truth is that it could have been much, MUCH worse. Imagine if he'd have gone through with the wedding - that would have forced you out in public, forced you to have to explain so many things to so many people, because there would be lots of legal and financial issues to deal with on top of everything else.

You have survived this, and can overcome it. It wasn't great, but it could have been so much worse, and most people are going to be pretty understanding.

Do you perhaps need to be less naïve and more realistic and grounded going forward, especially about relationships? Yes, clearly. Real life isn't a Disney fairy tale - there's no such thing as "happily ever after" - marriage simply means that you have a team, and the team works through all of the problems and obstacles life will throw at you TOGETHER, as a team. Disney would tell you that marriage means the end of problems, but that's a lie, and a very bad expectation to give to women (few men are so naïve about the world - the world teaches us the truth, the hard way).

But, otherwise, this is on HIM - HE was the asshole here, and everyone is going to realize that. So, pick your head up and go outside and face the world. It won't be nearly as bad as you imagine. You'll have a few uncomfortable moments here and there, but you'll tell your story a few times, and then it will be over and everyone will move on - including you.

[Adititte]

Since i never was in this situation i don't know how it feels. But i think the best that you can do now is to go out and have some fun. Meet with your friends and go party. Have a great time and try not to think to much of him

[Tina19]

That's awful however it isn't your fault if i was you i would have looked at it this way that my life got saved as i didn't had to marry a cheat

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

That must have been awful. But he should be the one ashamed not you

[Asker]

No i think he will not and he traveled to another country
I feel ashamed beacuse i trust him so much

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

I understand. But he did the wrong thing. Not you. Letting go is the best thing you can do.

[Jamie05rhs]

You shouldn't be the one who is ashamed. HE should be the one who is ashamed!

[mr4435669]

Change neighborhood.