Hi everyone,
My fiancé and I have been engaged and living together since 2020. Our wedding was initially planned for 2021 but then we went back into lockdown and we had no choice but to reschedule for 2023.
Fast forward to today, and I received some bad news from my doctor. He told me that while the health issue I’m going through right now isn’t life threatening, it’s going to take at least 8-12 months for me to feel even close to 100%. Our wedding is in 4 months.
I’ve been going through severe vomiting episodes, dizzy spells, chest pains, and a fluctuating heart rate recently. I’ve been in and out of the doctors trying to get answers. My fiancé has seen me at my worst - crying overnight, throwing up in a bucket, holding onto walls, etc. It has affected my work.
I asked my fiancé if we could postpone our wedding until I feel better. I truly don’t want to be sick on my wedding day and it’s all paid for. I reassured him that this has everything to do with my health and not him. I told him I truly loved him and his family, and that I can’t wait to feel better and get married as soon my health improves. He initially supported my decision. Then, 30 minutes later, he called and totally flipped out. He said, “Ugh. This is so embarrassing. It’s not easy when you’re sick.” It sparked a huge fight.
Guys, how would you have reacted if you were my fiancé? What about if you were me?
Things to note:
- I converted religions for him which took me 6 months to do. He and his family had nothing to do with his religion, they never went to church, yet I was very tied to mine. We are both Christians, but he essentially said if I don’t convert to orthodoxy the wedding is off because his mom would not approve.
- Recently, we planned to see a movie with his parents. I tried to go, but the night before, I had a vomiting episode and dizzy spell. The morning of, I was no better. Instead of rescheduling, he left me alone against doctor’s orders to go see the movie.
My fiancé and I have been engaged and living together since 2020. Our wedding was initially planned for 2021 but then we went back into lockdown and we had no choice but to reschedule for 2023.
Fast forward to today, and I received some bad news from my doctor. He told me that while the health issue I’m going through right now isn’t life threatening, it’s going to take at least 8-12 months for me to feel even close to 100%. Our wedding is in 4 months.
I’ve been going through severe vomiting episodes, dizzy spells, chest pains, and a fluctuating heart rate recently. I’ve been in and out of the doctors trying to get answers. My fiancé has seen me at my worst - crying overnight, throwing up in a bucket, holding onto walls, etc. It has affected my work.
I asked my fiancé if we could postpone our wedding until I feel better. I truly don’t want to be sick on my wedding day and it’s all paid for. I reassured him that this has everything to do with my health and not him. I told him I truly loved him and his family, and that I can’t wait to feel better and get married as soon my health improves. He initially supported my decision. Then, 30 minutes later, he called and totally flipped out. He said, “Ugh. This is so embarrassing. It’s not easy when you’re sick.” It sparked a huge fight.
Guys, how would you have reacted if you were my fiancé? What about if you were me?
Things to note:
- I converted religions for him which took me 6 months to do. He and his family had nothing to do with his religion, they never went to church, yet I was very tied to mine. We are both Christians, but he essentially said if I don’t convert to orthodoxy the wedding is off because his mom would not approve.
- Recently, we planned to see a movie with his parents. I tried to go, but the night before, I had a vomiting episode and dizzy spell. The morning of, I was no better. Instead of rescheduling, he left me alone against doctor’s orders to go see the movie.
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I would get the doctor records and sit down with your fiance. It is obviously not healthy for you to be involved in this wedding. If your fiance understood the medical issues that the doctor spoke of then he should be okay. Do you have the doctor medical report?
Can't you postpone the wedding?
I asked him, and he flipped out on me. Do you think he had a right to?
No I sure don’t.