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My girlfriend went on a girls trip to Vegas. I was very uncomfortable but I'm not a controlling boyfriend. So I told her "do whatever makes you happy" and she went. When she came home she told me about how she made friends with the bar tender Jose who was such a nice guy. She told me about how Jose gave her free drinks and low key brought her weed. She even added him to snapchat. I'm very uncomfortable with this situation but I haven't said anything. If I say something that will alert her she'll cover up her tracks, so I'm keeping cool. She says she didn't find Jose attractive. I don't know if I believe her but she's been talking about him lots. She was also on her period during the trip. Aren't women more likely to cheat on their period? What's even more disturbing is her friend Amber she went with kind of cheated on her man. Amber gave her number to a guy and told him she's single. Last year my girlfriend went on a trip to Miami and I didn't feel uncomfortable. Now this trip so much is going through my head. Maybe it's due to the fact that she's been fridid all year. I don't know what to think right now

To begin with, I have lost track of how many cousins I have in total. I was in touch with my maternal cousins until when I was a 5 year old boy. But that’s a question for some other time. Soon, my family shifted to another state for better living. And I got completely disconnected from all of them. Life continued until one of my female cousins whom I knew as a kid, and her mother came to stay with us for a tour of the city. All I knew about her is her name and that her father left their family and ran away, leaving her mother alone with three kids. Now, she is a 26 year old attractive female. She was quite friendly from the beginning and we went to several places to visit. In one of our conversations, she told me that she didn’t have a boyfriend ever. Which was almost impossible for me to believe. During all of the trips, she held my hands wherever we went and always stayed together except when we were asleep. She would tell me that I look more handsome in-person than in my photos. And I told her that she is indeed very beautiful.

As for myself, I am a 22 year old male and never had a girlfriend nor had anything physical my entire life. That could be because of my upbringing, as my parents are one of the strictest I’ve ever seen and I am not kidding. For instance, I had very limited access to a smartphone, television or even a computer with access to internet till I was 18.

For some reason, I felt that she was everything I have been looking for in a partner. And I did have the guilt. Even when we were sitting in-front of our parents, she kept touching my hands and hair. And our parents also didn’t bother. Cuz we’re family! She seemed like a joyful and carefree adult like in the movies. Life would be easier if there was a person like her with me. Her vacation came to an end and we went back to our lives. I would look at our pictures here and then to remind me of her. It’s been a year since then and I am still trying to find a partner.

Just for the record it is not racist if you just find certain ethnicities physically attractive.

Physical attraction isn’t a choice. Race is also a bullshit victim excuse some people use who can’t handle rejection (if it was due to looks). If a minority girl isn’t physically attracted to me because I’m white then she’s just not attracted to me. I might be disappointed but it’s just how it is. Not her fault because physical attraction isn’t a choice.

However if you do find someone of a different race attractive but won’t even give them a chance because of unfair prejudices that’s a different story. It’s one thing if you took the time to get to know them and you just found them incompatible. But quite another if you intentionally stayed away despite finding them attractive otherwise.

Anyway I have have dated outside my race plenty of times. But often found these women brought up racial differences more than I did. I had an Asian ex girlfriend who would say “ah white people” occasionally when she was frustrated with me over something. It didn’t bother me the much because she was young, beautiful and in love with me for a long stretch. But I rarely brought up race when dating and if I did it was usually positive (she was a good cook).

But still I truly believe women consider race more when it comes to dating then they will admit (white girls especially won’t admit that).

Again I do NOT think it’s “racist” to admit you don’t find a certain ethnicity attractive (but respect them otherwise). But I think women are secretly more picky about this.