Now a days, if you were interested in someone, would you ask for their number or a social media handle first?

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This goes for both meeting someone in person AND/OR online.  Even though I likely wouldn’t give my number so soon, I find it more attractive when a guy asks for my number. All I have is discord, so asking for any other social media handle is a waste.  But gosh it turns me off so much when someone says “You got snap?”.  Maybe I’m just old school but I don't know I just always see it as a red flag in terms of what their intentions may be. I just immediately feel they are obsessed with sending attention seeking selfies or wanting nudes/sexxting. You automatically feel like just another “number” that isn’t being taken seriously #FeelFreeToList

FriendlyCanadianGuy · Accepted Answer

I actually experimented with this idea recently!!

Last Feb I went alone to a concert. Dressed well, got a haircut etc, and had many girls approach me.

I asked some girls for numbers after talking and got flat out rejected- super awkward after that.

I asked some girls for their insta and it never failed. Well it did once with that girl Nicky but she offered her number instead (there's always an odd one out !)

I think with this day and age asking for a social media account is just easier. You don't risk some creep spam calling you and you can immediately know if that person is single or seeing someone by their profile.

iron_ninjs · Accepted Answer

I mean, if you know their name, you can easily find them on social media. I'd ask for the phone number.

ohsheeT · Answer

Dizzy wait a minute what happened to the zodiac sign LOL LMAO. Sorry had to say it

Of course phone number I don't care with your social media thing is I want to be able to talk to her if we were far away or whatever I'd rather listen to The voice than listen to the keyboard clicks

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Ayo yo I feel you sis, that whole social media handle shit def gives off a different vibe than askin for the digits.

For real these days seems like most dudes just out for the 'gram likes or tryna get nudes, not tryna build real no more. Ask "you got snap?" come on son, pause.

Me personally, unless we really clicked I wouldn't ask for the number straight off either. Gotta show you actually tryna get to know a queen first. Exchange a little conversation, few joking smiles and whatnot.

Then maybe it's "aight shorty well listen, when you tryna grab lunch sometime and chat more?" After you feel like ya connected some. The number trade more natural that way, less pressure too I think.

Otherwise feel you 100% - straight askin for socials come off desperate or like ya just another body to em. Nobody wants that "just another number" business foreal.

Keep it classy, let the connection grow organically - that's how the real ones do it in my opinion. But real talk shorty keep doin you, lookin fly as always!

PizzaDaddyo · Answer

Short answer: let me get that number baby!

I don’t go for the social media. I really don’t have too many platforms of social media. I only watch YouTube and Snapchat a bit. All other mainstream media outlets scare me. I sadly have had quite a few potential prospects that asked me for Instagram and the fact that I don’t have it sucks a bit (in that department) and there has been definitely had been some times when I didn’t have it a near by friend did have snap and got connected? Lol anyways there lost!

Number getting is super rewarding and direct. Maybe because I just turned 30… getting the number is so real to the point where social media “following”, and adding as “friends” is no good feng shui. No I don’t want to follow you or, like any where. Maybe I want to be more than friends. I try my best to stick with the number thing. It never gets old.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

The media platform route is kind of lame with all the bells and whistles. It’s flashy texting. Not real. If you ask for a number, you can text or talk or facetime. That’s why those platforms increasingly include those options, they’re mimicking phones. The difference is, they get to see and hear everything you do. With your cell phone outside of apps, only they get access to that information, and they’re regulated by a different set of rules app’s aren’t subjected to. Plus it’s redundant anyway if you are using apps on the phone.

I think a number of women can be too guarded and pussy when giving out their phone number. We’re getting scammed daily by foreign Indian call centers forwarding their calls through domestic numbers/centers to hide their origin using random number generators. They don’t need to buy a phone list. So, it’s not like our numbers are sacred right now. You can always block a number.

AlexEfron · Answer

Usually I don't. I rarely approach anyone even if I am interested. Probably because people have generally had a biased opinion of me or judged me unjustly. It has come to the point of that I don't even try to make friends. It you find me interesting, come talk to me and I will talk to you.

I don't use Snapchat anymore, but this reminded me of something 😂. When I first joined Snapchat, my younger cousin was amused. He commented - Snapchat is basically for sending nudes 🤣🤣 (though I never did, but that was funny and now you mention it as well 😂 only interested in sexting)

electromagnetic · Answer

I’d probably just ask for their number and go from there. Because I’m very private, I feel like my social medias would reveal a lot about me I wouldn’t want anyone who isn’t in my circle to know. My number doesn’t offer much and when we aren’t interested in each other anymore, I can just block them.

Dinklex3 · Answer

I’ll ask for their social media. Insta or FB preferably. But I’ve been overseas for a bit, instead of using cellular network I had to talk to my friends and people via insta or FB messenger.
Majority of my friends are still overseas so I use insta messenger to talk to them on the phone.

So if I meet someone new, I’d ask for their instagram out of habit. The snap thing is a red flag for me though 😅

MysticDevice · Answer

I think i'd most likely ask for socials first. But not snapchat or instagram. Immediate turnoff for me.

Or I'd ask what the best way to contact them is. Usually facebook first. I feel like thats friendlier. Then phone number. That seems more personal.

DummyThiccFeraligatr · Answer

I'm mixed on this. I'd like to see what her social media is like, because it tells a lot about a person (posts constantly, photos only of her, trolling, etc?), but at the same time, I'd much rather just text or - gasp - talk on the phone. Other than this account, I don't have social media anyway, so there'd be no way for me to reach her.

Bismarck_96 · Answer

Well social media let's you see their entire life well part of it but then there's a draw back once that's given theyll start digging more into your stuff and fin more medias of you and if you delete then off your platforms theyll just make another account and keep lurking you

Phone number is good but you got to guess it out and they can't dig on your stuff you can delete them and they will only try once or twice in contacting you

Old is Gold

Pudsmucker · Answer

Seems like every time I get approached by somebody on social media, after period of time they're wanting something. Or they'll send me nude photos. When a person sends me nude photos they expect me to pay them for something that I did not solicit. I'm not your sugar daddy. They have nice photos but that's not what I want, it is more about friendship.

nawtee_me · Answer

Number first because if she doesn’t have good communication skills on the phone then social media won’t matter.
I can see it now, you are talking to a prospective partner in person and they spew out things like lol at the end of their sentences with you…. Do you answer them with rofl….

menina · Answer

That's a great question.

I wouldn't ask because I'm 100% sure that I would be rejected.

However, I would prefer him to ask for my number. I'm not on social media and having his number would be more special.

Finchie40 · Answer

If it’s someone I met in person then I ask for their number , someone I meet on the internet I ask for their Snap , mainly because there is so many scammers on the internet

DJB72 · Answer

Number. I don't really do much social media unless I already have a solid foundation as I put pics of my son up sometimes. Can't "friend" me anywhere unless I invited you (except here)

lilyanony1 · Answer

Telephone number I have like 274 friends on social media most people think thats weird.  I really don't care but others judge

Phoenix98 · Answer

If they were someone I met face to face I'd ask for their number I don't really use social media and could care less about that, it's not important.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I would either ask or leave my phone number for them. If they were interested they would follow up.

JDavid25 · Answer

I ask for whatever form of communication they are comfortable with giving me.. And then hopefully we move from there... Whenever I ask..

the_sinner · Answer

I’d always go for the good old phone number for texting/ calling/ whatsapp. Texting is my strongest suite and if it’s really meant to be then sparks can fly over calls and texts too rather than sharing materialistic pics over social media.

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