My girlfriend went on a girls trip to Vegas. I was very uncomfortable but I'm not a controlling boyfriend. So I told her "do whatever makes you happy" and she went. When she came home she told me about how she made friends with the bar tender Jose who was such a nice guy. She told me about how Jose gave her free drinks and low key brought her weed. She even added him to snapchat. I'm very uncomfortable with this situation but I haven't said anything. If I say something that will alert her she'll cover up her tracks, so I'm keeping cool. She says she didn't find Jose attractive. I don't know if I believe her but she's been talking about him lots. She was also on her period during the trip. Aren't women more likely to cheat on their period? What's even more disturbing is her friend Amber she went with kind of cheated on her man. Amber gave her number to a guy and told him she's single. Last year my girlfriend went on a trip to Miami and I didn't feel uncomfortable. Now this trip so much is going through my head. Maybe it's due to the fact that she's been fridid all year. I don't know what to think right now
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My girlfriend made a new guy friend on girls trip?
It's time to start thinking about parting ways with her.
Let me ask it this way. Would SHE permit you to do the same and tolerate it? And lets say for the sake of argument she would permit you to do 'what is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander' routine. You've got to suspect that a) She is already doing this and b) she just isn't that much into you!
She doesn’t want sex with you and it doesn’t sound like she is really into you. Don’t you want a girlfriend who loves you, looks forward to seeing you, wants to have sex, etc?
Whatever happens in Vegas stays in Vegas as they say & they also say trust is a wonderful thing. Just because someone adds someone to Snapchat doesn’t automatically mean they’re cheating. Girls will be girls & guys will be guys & in Vegas people drink, people smoke, people gamble & people have a good time. On the flip side it seems like you are making a mountain out of a molehill & if the sex is still good enjoy it & enjoy your relationship & move forward.
Time will tell as they say & I hope time is on your side.
Women can pretend it’s all fine, but if their boyfriend did the same thing they would be freaking out. That was in appropriate behavior, but unfortunately this is what happens on “girl trips”. There is no solid evidence she cheated, so confronting her won’t go well. But I would definitely be keeping an eye out and don’t advance the relationship unless she gives you reason to trust her again.
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Not sure what frigid means to you but it sounds like you are feeling the relationship is not going well so you are in a vulnerable position, a position of weakness. I'd guess she was at best naively thankful for the nice treatment that the bartender gave her and she bonded with him. Probably without sleeping with him so she feels morally able to communicate this openly with you. But I don't know her, maybe this positive outcome was less clean.
Go on a guys trip and meet some waitress and add her on social media and see what happens. She may not have done anything wrong but her actions did nothing to build trust. If you were that important to her, she wouldn't do it
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